Hey peeps, I'm new. I dunno what I'm doing here. I guess I just want someone to talk to.

[Redblue05]

Anyone feel like they have had so many best friends in the past years but you are no one's best friend? You value and love people so much and you are always the outsider. I just want a connection. Someone who knows everything about me, and loves me unconditionally. But at the same time people are so much effort and I just want to be alone and watch the stars and listen to sad music. Please help me, I'm so lonely. I think I'm fading, each day gets worse and worse until I can't function. Sorry

[Amanda2000]

Hi Redblue05

There are a lot of like-minded people here! Friendship issues seem to be a recurring topic in this space.

I know what you mean about not being anyone's best friend. I haven't had much luck with friends either. During my school days, I was never important enough for someone to mind me a seat.

I hope you'll soon meet the friends that you deserve. It's quality, not quantity - all you need is 1 or 2 or 3 people who truly care about you. Take care!

[SarahElise]

Sending you love. I 100% feel you. I feel like I put in effort beyond words. Yet the people I put effort into have their own best friends. It is hard & it can be reality. I feel like they don’t understand the pain we go through and perhaps that’s why we get lack of effort? I also wonder maybe they don’t put in effort for a reason? Am I too sad or boring? it is good to know we feel the same. Remember that even if we feel this way we are loved.

[Redblue05]

Yeah sometimes, I feel guilty for feel depressed because some of my friends have it worse. Then I remember that they have people to share their problems with, sometimes it feels like I have to stuff everything inside and pretend for their sake that I'm fine. You are allowed to be sad and show it, it doesn't define you though.

Red

[Kram21]

Being alone does not help. I hope you find someone to share your problems with

[PeterW1]

Hi redblue05 it is my first time on the forums. I have just gotten out of the mental ward 2 months ago. The depression has really hit me hard. I'm sad to hear you are so down and are struggling along. I don't know what else to say but try to keep in touch with your friends and do something you enjoy.