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Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started

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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

How do I talk to my doctor?

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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION

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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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i don't care

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about anything anymore, but at the same time, I care.

Boy friend showed his true colours feel sad

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My boyfriend and I were in love, but he dumped me for his ex who he was with for 20 years. He broke up with her before seeing me and he told me I made him believe in love again. He told me a lot of things: that he loved me, that he was red a future with me, that I was the only woman in the world for him now, that we were soulmates, that he wanted to have a football team of kids with me, that I was by far the most special woman he’d ever dated. I tried to help him where he needed it and I loved being with him. Then last weekend, one day he was acting deeply in love with me, and being kind and caring, literally the next day he was back with her. I’m struggling with this, it’s broken my faith in relationships. Has anyone else experienced this?

Depression over health issues.

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Ten years ago I was diagnosed with Crohnes disease. By the time I was finally diagnosed however, it had destroyed around one metre of my small intestine. My bowel perforated and I had to battle so hard to stay alive. I was left a wreck, both physically and mentally. I won't go into this much, as it's pretty traumatic and hurts at what can happen when someone doesn't do their job. My body has been a disaster zone the last ten years. Some good times, but a lot of problems dealing with short bowel and crohnes. Last October the heart damage caused by the mess ten years ago came back to hit me hard! I had congestive heart failure, and after another fight for life, survived. Since then I have battled feeling depressed, as I feel I'm a dead man walking! I begin to feel more confident, then my belly gives me issues and my fear and depressed feeling return. I'm not the suicidal type, because my fear is of dying before I am ready! I love being alive, and visiting old friends and places of my youth. I look at life as THE experience, a gift to wring everything out of! I'm not scared of death, I'm scared of leaving the world I have loved for 67 years. I don't like medication for depression as it's masking, and not solving the problem. As I say, I am fine, until my body decides to scare me good, every few weeks lately.

year 12 will be the death of me i swear

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if you take the time to read this, then thank you so currently in year 12, failing chemistry and maths methods, which is lowkey really stressing me out but like thats okay. i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety a few years back and this year a few months ago i got diagnosed with chronic migraines although they've been going on for years. last year with lockdown i got extremely depressed and am so surprised i even passed year 11. it was hard. this year though, is different. I'm from Melbourne, Victoria and we haven't had any cases in 90 days but that recently changed and we've been put into another lockdown that is probably gonna get extended, i am literally on day two of this and i just found out i failed one of my sacs, i genuinely do not think i can make it through another year of online school. What do i do to cope, cos all i did last year was turn my camera off and sleep through classes, i was so depressed. I mean sometimes i have bursts of motivation from videos i'll see or something like that but they never last. there is of course also a guy, who is equally as depressed as i am, worse than i am (and yes i know probably shouldn't like him) but man i can't keep my mind of him and i always wanna help him and we both said (cos we live a little far away from each other) we will wait, wait till we have our licenses, wait till we finish year 12. that is literally nearly all that is keeping me going at this point. as well as wanting a victorian position in cadets (youth development program). i have so much to look forward to and hope for, i know i do. i just don't have the bloody motivation and it ticks me off. why can't i just be idk normal? can you guys help me get through this? oh and should i see a therapist? Thanks, t.c

Anger towards loved ones

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First time on here I have been off my anxiety & depression tablets for a few months now and I have been good off them other then my anger towards my partner for no apparent reason, I know I’m doing it and I can’t stop. His done nothing wrong I just don’t know what’s going on and why. He could say something so little and I get so irritated and frustrated at him. I’m lost on what’s wrong. What do I do

Feeling really helpless

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Hello, I'm new to this forum I'm not really sure if this is in the right spot as I haven't been officially diagnosed or anything or seen anyone about this. I've always felt like I am a failure though, I can't reach parent expectations, I feel estranged from my friendship groups. I don't articulate well when talking to people outside and while I'm at work. I don't really know how to improve or where to go from here and can't help but blame myself for the fact that I am the way I am or anything I do never turns out well and that everyone around me secretly dislikes me. I'm in my 20s and I feel like I should be able to accept or not care whether I'm liked or not, or carry on after messing up but it continuously eats me up inside and it's like a repetitive and vicious cycle that happens constantly every week or two. I have really hated myself for awhile now and feeling very alone as there is nobody I feel close enough to talk to about how I'm feeling and I'm not sure what I can do about me.

Wasting time

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How do I stop wasting my time?

I am stuck in the past

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Hi all I'm not sure if anyone else is like this. When I get depressed which unfortunately can be quite often, I become fixated on the past. In particular there was a time in 2009/10 where I was happier than I've ever been. I was only young, 17 or so back then. Most notably I had just started my first 'relationship'.... we held hands a few times... so relationship might be a stretch, but it meant the world to me. As far as I was concerned she was perfect. It was period of a few months where I couldn't have been happier. I remember so much of that time in vivid detail. Things went very downhill not long after, that's when I was diagnosed with severe depression and I landed up in hospital on more than one occasion. I'm doing well now but it's a battle. My current relationship is not good. While I love my partner she sadly is almost certainly a covert narcissist. It's taken me the best part of 5 years to figure that out. All the time I thought I was in some way defective. I wrote a separate thread about that as that is presenting issues of its own. I guess this triggers me to experience depressive episodes at times. I guess it's safe to say the last 5 years have been very hard. When I have these episodes I start going through old photos, emails etc. from this time. Even going as far as mapping out what events occurred on what day. Almost trying to take myself back. At first I thought it's just reminiscing; which I guess it is; but I think I'm stuck. Honestly I'd give everything to go back to that time again. Sometimes I even drive to locations where significant things may have happened. I try so hard to go back. I know I'm seeing the present through a depressed lens at the moment and that's probably part of the issue. Does anyone have any advice so I can 'snap out' of this? While I enjoy the nostalgia I fear it's becoming a bit of an obsessive thing and isn't doing me any good.

breakup regret

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Hi there, I am currently at the lowest point i’ve ever been in my life and i’m just looking for some advice i guess. I have been in a happy and loving relationship for the past two years and he was everything i could ever want. however, i am very mentally unstable and it appears i have bpd/ptsd (waiting for diagnosis). as a result of my poor mental health i said and did a lot of things to my partner that i deeply regret and i told him i wanted to break up. he didn’t want to leave and held on for 3 months and he recently decided he wasn’t in love with me anymore and has to move on because what i did to him is unforgivable. basically i wanted to break up with him and now i regret it a lot. now that he's really gone, i’m the most depressed and suicidal i’ve ever been in my life. i haven’t eaten in over a week and i’ve been crying so much i physically can’t cry anymore, no tears come out. i can’t imagine moving on and not having him in my life anymore and i feel so stupid for everything i’ve done. i’m really struggling at the moment as i honestly have no friends, he was my only friend and i pushed him away. now i have no one. how can i let him go and how can i move on? i really cant imagine life without him and the thought of him moving on and seeing other people makes me feel physically sick. thank you

Am I suffering Depression?

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My mum pointed out today- 'Do you have depression' during an argument. Since then, I've been wondering to myself if I do have depression or if its just a silly personality trait I have. Its too difficult for me to visit a GP, but at the same time I don't trust the 'tests' you can do online. So i'd rather ask what everyone else had to say. Here is a reference to some of things I go though. Firstly, I over sleep big time. Go to bed at 12-3, but i sleep in till about 1pm (non work days). Very unhealthy sleep schedule, i know, I either oversleep or under-sleep. And I am usually still tired 50% of the week. My diet is also very terrible, I don't eat in the day, usually skip breakfast and lunch but then I overeat at night time. I tell myself I need to change, but I have no motivation. My relationship with my mum isn't great at all, and it doesnt help that she doesn't have the best of filters. So now everytime i see her, i think "what will she say next?" She's clearly addresed to me im overweight and lazy. And usually I watch youtube at home when im not working, but i find myself skipping through the videos quiet bored, but I do this for hours. I constantly have the thoughts that im not perfect, and im easily the least fvvourite child but as I said, I find myself to have no motivation to change. I can say I have a massive dream to be a Town planner, and im heading into university in about two months time. Im somewhat social in the week, but at the same time im a little to excited in stopping my connect group I have when I start uni. Is there anything else I should include? please let me know.

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i don't care replies: 4

Boy friend showed his true colours feel sad replies: 3

Depression over health issues. replies: 2

year 12 will be the death of me i swear replies: 8

Anger towards loved ones replies: 1

Feeling really helpless replies: 2

Wasting time replies: 8

I am stuck in the past replies: 3

breakup regret replies: 3

Am I suffering Depression? replies: 2