Having many breakdowns from depression and lonliness

[Jb_]

Hi, thanks for the opportunity to ask a question. Just seeking some general advice. Recently there's been a few people die in our family. My father from suicide and grandfather from cancer. I don't have any brothers or sisters or really any close family. My closest friends have moved to New Zealand recently and the other couple of people I'd see have stopped talking to me. One only texting me to tell me everything he hates about me. I have never in my life felt so alone. With depression and ADD/ADHD on top of that... I'm often at a loss as to what to do. Loneliness feels very overwhelming when you have nobody to go to. When you feel friendships have an expiration date. Any and all advise appreciated. Thanks

[gunnedo]

Hi jbunt, so sorry to hear of all your recent losses and the loneliness now. Yes it is hard to get through these times especially with no one close around. I am in a similar position and very isolated by COVID-19 restrictions.i try to make sure I go out each day at least once only if it’s only to the local store, there I can chat with the shop staff and just say hello to someone. I have also joined a couple of groups , I have to meet strangers but soon get familiar with some people. I found these contacts through the local community centre and local paper. It’s not perfect but at least I am making some contacts. Take care.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Jb.,

​​​​​Welcome to our friendly online community - thanks for reaching out today. We're so sorry to hear that you've recently lost your father and grandfather. We understand that this must be a difficult time, especially if you don't have close friends or family to support you. Please know that you have joined this community, and some of our friendly members have had similar experiences. Hopefully a few of them will pop by to welcome you over the next few days.

Can we ask if you are receiving mental health support? Please do feel free to contact the Beyond Blue Support Service anytime on 1300 22 4636 or get in touch with us on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST here: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport One of the friendly counsellors can offer you some support but also provide you with advice and referrals for seeing a counsellor in a more ongoing way.

If you feel it may be helpful, you are always welcome to get in touch with Kids Help Line. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under. 

You might also be interested in taking a look at some of our online resources:

• “Loneliness” -
  https://www.beyondblue.org.au/personal-best/pillar/in-focus/loneliness-the-public-health-issue-we-sh...
• “Grief and Loss” - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/grief-and-loss

We hope that you keep checking back in and let us know how you are going when you feel up to it. We're all here for you in this difficult time.

 

[Jb_]

Thanks, mate

Appreciate the advice 🙂

[Jb_]

Thanks very much 🙂

[Jb_]

Sorry, yeah forgot to answer your question. Yeah I'm getting some support from time to time. I try and see my therapist every couple months. And I medicate it too...