Had enough

[Hooe]

My boyfriend has made me delete all social media stopped me from talking too my friends, he will no longer go too my mums or have anything too do with my children the other day i sat there for 7 hours while he drank with his friend and i had too wait for him, this wasn't the first. Hes currently all angry at me because i dont want too go out because i have tonsillitis he drinks daily i just feel like this guy is bringing me down and making my mental health worse

[monkey_magic]

Hi Hooe,

It sounds disappointing. If this boyfriend is bringing you down and making your mental health worse I think it's time you thought about moving on without him before it gets worse. There are a lot of red flags and he sounds unhealthy. What do u think?

[Croix]

Dear Hooe~

I'm a bit stumped as to what you see in this person. He sounds controlling and is trying to isolate you by wanting to you cut your social media ties. He does not have a regard for your physical health and is downright rude and inconsiderate making you wait 7 hours while he drinks with his buddies.

Sometimes if one has had ill-fortune. Been divorced or left on one's own to look after children, or any one of a number of unhappy events then it might seem one has to 'make allowances' , make do. Feel that one is not a prize catch, or that with children one is at a disadvantage.

Perhaps I'm reading too much into your words, but it is not impossible you might feel a bit this way. Please have look on the web for 'cycle of abuse' and see if it sounds familiar.

Your bf does not sound in the least supportive. Do you have anyone that is? Perhaps a parent or other family member? Someone like that only can share the load and maybe also give perspective.

I guess I'd like to ask the same thing as Monkey_Magic - what do you think?

Croix

[Hooe]

I dont know what too think ive known him since i was 14 im 22 now weve only been together 6 months but its turning bad.

We can never settle on a decision for dinner or anything all he wants too do is go too his friends and drink we usually sit there through dinner time and dont get dinner till like 10pm when hes done drinking & i have too drive because he has no lisence

Today i went too the shop he wouldn't come in with me i asked do you want anything he said no then just before he asks me too take him too the shops im sick of him saying how high too jump.

I feel like im waiting around for nothing he cant show me any affection or love he calls me names and all sorts its really messing with my head

[Croix]

Dear Hooe~

I think from your latest post you have perhaps already got a realistic idea of what is happening.

I've been blessed in having only had two long term relationships, both of which were amazing (I'm still in one). My partners made me feel loved and of value. I really wish the same for you, life does not have to be an endless round of put downs and being taken advantage of.

Do you think a bit of distance for a while might help?

Croix