Giving up hope that help is available

[Finding_Courage]

I’ve had trauma throughout my life from childhood through to adulthood. Depression, anxiety and recently ADHD diagnosed. I’ve experienced parental abandonment, DV (in 3 relationships and 2 family) and all of that led to drinking as self medication. But I stopped drinking, married a wonderful man and felt like life was finally getting better. Then I’ve recently discovered video and photos of me online posted by a twisted ex without consent. I’m traumatised and still in shock because he took the videos without me knowing. I’ve reported it to the police but I feel like nothing is being done and that they just don’t think finding this creep and questioning him is a priority. I’ve contacted two DV support services, one just gave generic responses and referred me on, and the other has not even responded to my request for support. I was treated with disrespect by a police officer when reporting the image/video abuse. I feel like I’m being courageous by seeking help as it’s so hard for me to do. I feel like I’m hitting road blocks everywhere I turn. I can’t sleep, my stomach is in knots, I’m anxious and depressed. I can’t focus at work. I feel like I’m going downhill and I’m losing hope. 

[Sophie_M]

Hi Finding_Courage,

Thank you so much for your post. Your words reflect the immense weight of everything you’ve been through, and it’s completely understandable that this would leave you feeling overwhelmed and questioning whether hope is still possible.

We’re deeply sorry to hear that after showing such courage in reporting what your ex did to you, you weren’t treated with the respect and care you needed in that moment. That moment of vulnerability should have been met with validation and support, not dismissal. Please know that despite that response, reaching out for help was a brave and powerful act.

It sounds like you’re carrying a lot right now, and you shouldn’t have to face it alone. If you feel ready to talk to someone, 1800RESPECT is a fantastic service that specialises in supporting people who’ve experienced abuse and trauma. You can call them on 1800 737 732 or connect via their online chat. You’re also welcome to reach out to the Beyond Blue Support Service at any time, available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636, or you can chat online.

Thank you again for sharing your story with us. It takes real strength to speak up, especially when things feel so heavy. If you feel comfortable, we’d love to hear more about how you’ve been feeling. We are here to offer kindness, understanding, and support.

Kind regards,
Sophie M

[Finding_Courage]

Thank you Sophie 🙏😢