Feeling so hopeless and alone at Uni

[jayskye]

Hi, i hope whoever is reading is well.

I just feel so alone in this. I'm a girl with ASD in my 2nd year of uni a million years away from home, which is hard enough. I dont really have luck socialising, I can make small talk with people but i havent been able to form a friendship naturally since high school. 

ive been in this sort of hole for years following a traumatic experience, i cant escape feeling depressed and like im doing it all wrong. It left me alone for a while and I lived half my life online, which just left me shut off from the world until only recently. 

Ive had just the one friend from back home during my time at uni, and I still haven't made any friends from campus yet. My course is small and everyone's already formed their groups. I have trouble attending class and being truly present, so talking to people is a whole other quest.

My friend's family situation back home isnt so great, and shes told me she made the decision to leave the city and move home. I already feel so lonely, i cant imagine being here all alone. I really cant and I feel like giving up.

I think ive rambled enough. sorry. I really just donr know what to do. theres so much more on my mind and it's all hard enough. I just need some advice i guess. im seeing a therapist next month to help out.

but please, dont tell me to join a club!! the only thing in my area is sports and I physically cant do that, and anything else is too big of a commitment with work and study. 

thats it i guess. thank you so much for reading ♡ lots of love

[Patricia000]

Heya,

That sounds really rough - you have a lot on your plate and I am so sorry you are going through all this. I don't have much advice to give, but just wanted to come and wish you well and tell you that your story is being heard. People on these forums are lovely and someone much wiser than me will have some good suggestions for you! It's fantastic that you are going to see a therapist next month, though I imagine that is quite a wait for the feelings you are having right now.

Wishing you all the best - I am rooting for you! 🙂

[dontseethepoint]

you're not alone in this feeling. i'm on the spectrum as well and i've always struggled with making friends. i've found myself trapped in the prison that is loneliness many times in my life, and i know how terribly difficult it is to get out of it. 

just remember that all it takes is one friend to get the ball rolling. once you connect with someone, it opens up a world of possibility- their connections, their friends' friends', etc. when it comes to initially making a friend, i find humour to be the easiest gateway to friendship. being funny is hard though, when you're anxious and have trouble understanding people. maybe watch some youtube videos on it, or scroll tiktok or reels and pick up on the latest internet meme buzzwords😂. this is what i've found to be helpful personally

i don't know how helpful my advice will be to you, because some things are easier said than done, but i'd like to at least try to help you out some because i really do feel for you. wishing you the best!!