Feeling depressed due to different thinking

[MyLadyGirl]

Hello everyone,
I just want to express my slight depression that I am facing with my partner. My partner is a lovely and kind person that makes me happy and laugh most of the time. He does thing silly just to make me smile. He have been through a lot from his pass and he want to help people that he knows not to be down.
We are from different background and beliefs. But the problem is not that. He has been texting two friends (women). I am glad that he confessed that he was doing it and they have been his friends for a long time. They have problems with relationship, and he tries to lift them up by saying beautiful thigs just to lift their spirit up. Basically my partner tells me everything which I am happy and honour that he does. The problem is ME. Because I am from a different country and different background where I find it hard for a person that I love texting another person for a good cause. I know I should not feel upset or depress but sometimes I do feel sad and upset where negative thought disturbed me thinking that he is having an affair or cheating me where he assures me it’s not. I am happy that he is helping others that have problem with their relationship where he wants to build their self confidence back and let them think that there are people out there that are great and can be loved again.
Saying that because of that fear, I kept asking him question about if he is cheating and what they text and etc even though I know what’s happening. I also told him that I am too old for dramas and relationship that involve cheating.
Additional to that, he told me numerous times where I kept asking him (probably in a same manner which he said) the same question over and over again and he hates to repeat them until we argue. Now we don’t talk too much and I feel lonely even though we stay together. He even says that I don’t want to learn about his culture where I always give an excuse and want to follow my way only without compromising and seeing his point of view which I should in order to sustain the relationship.
I know you all would probably say the same things as I should trust him, Give it a chance on knowing things, not to thinks like wise and etc which I am in that state of mind as I have pass that stage and grew to know what I should or should not do as I don’t feed to my negative thoughts. I help relating to me as individual.

[Talkinghelps]

Hi LadyGirl

I can relate a little I have a generous boyfriend who gives alot of his time to anyone including women friends making me as couple neglected but I trust he loves me and its just his nature. In saying that its hard to accept sometimes as I wish he could understand my point of view. I have found talking to him about how it makes me feel when he does things and why I get frustrated has helped and did this in a calm way but I also looked into couples counselling as a resort and maybe it could work for you and your partner. Its totally natural to wonder when your partner texts other women and its not always about trust but its about yr partner understanding your feelings and also making you a priority. Maybe a third party counsellor could help? Just some thoughts i am no way an expert but can relate a little. Talking to him not from place of mistrust but about how his over generous nature makes me feel second sometimes really did help, he was completely unaware and it helped us.

I really wish you all the best my friend.

[MyLadyGirl]

Hello Talkinghelps's

Yes it's exactly how I feel. I feel that why my partner talk or text them more and not to me. Why my partner can talk to them and not me. Having thoughts of what is he talking that my partner talk more rather then me. But my partner tells me things (not all but some) and I not bothered because it's personal and they trust my partner with their problem. So I just can't be bothered - let say who do not have their own problem but wants to help others. My partner does give me priority at home where when at home my partner spend time with me (but sneakily message too) I did expressed my feeling and concern to what my partner is doing and all this. We talk long time getting out to ease the doubt and negative thoughts. It did help me a lot. It's just that with my age and learning about life and what's importance this is nothing. I can't help the situation as it's the nature and I should not control someone that wants to help others knowingly that people out there need help. Thanks for the advice to consult third party for an advice.