dear Saj, sorry something happened to end the previous post.
If she is still working I would suggest that she inform her boss that she needs time of because of this bullying, but everything needs to be documented, written down, what time, where the bullying took place and the circumstances to all of this, this is very important, as her employer will try and fabricate or make up different stories as to what she says.
I understand that to get her to do these time and places maybe a bit hard for her at the moment, because of the drinking, but as much as you want her to stop drinking or at least slow down, it's best not to nag her about it, because she will turn the other way, and then increase her drinking.
If you know the days, the times etc then write them down yourself, and what it has caused her to do, and that,s drinking heavily, plus it has developed depression, but also noting whether or not she has had depression before all of this started.
If she has had depression before the employers solicitor will find out, but hopefully she hasn't.
At the present time she hates everybody, and this is caused by the drinking, the bullying, her depression and the lack of trust she has in everybody.
At the moment she won't be able to reduce her alcohol, I'm sorry to say, this will only happen when she recognises that living in denial isn't the way to go.
You can't blame yourself for her behaving like this it's her depression and combined with the alcohol and the bullying that's making her like this.
She is in a very delicate mood and won't accept any comments from anyone, not unless your children have the ability to get to her when she isn't expecting it.
If she does have a friend who can convince her to go and see a doctor as well as a solicitor, but not on the same day, then this will be the first step.
It's not going to be easy at all, I'm sorry to say, but please reply back to us. Geoff.
