feeeling depressed and Worthless

[SBDM]

HI everyone,
I am not sure if I can get any help from this forum but I am just trying my best to recover. I have this bouts of crying without a reason and I am irritable most of the time. I get agitated with people around me very fast and I know it is not their mistake. I feel I am not liked by anyone and no one wants me anymore. eve a joke or a humor from my partner feels like a nasty comment and I get offended easily. I feel if I am not there people around me would be happier and probably better off. I feel like I am a burden on everyone and no one needs me any more. I had typed this message on another thread and could not get ny response. Probably was wrong on the group. I also sometimes am verbally abused by people around me. Feel I don't have much independence in my life.

regards,
SBDM

[geoff]

Hello SBDM, welcome and sorry your last comment had not been replied to and if the site is very busy, then comments can be passed over to the next page.

What you have told us means a great deal and involves so much that can't be answered straight away, but I'm not qualified to say, only experienced it like many others.

People can get agitated if they are with us, simply because they don't understand or realise what we are trying to cope with, a problem that may not concern them directly, but yes, indirectly it does as they tend to leave us.

This can happen for several reasons, such as, we tend to cry for no specific reason and what we used to find humourous isn't any more.

What we all want is to recover, sometimes it's quicker for one person rather than ourselves but we can't or don't know how long this will be, only hope and it needs to start somewhere, to have a diagnosis, so the appropriate treatment and medication to begin with.

As I've said I'm not a doctor and only talking from experience.

I hope we can hear back from you.

Geoff.

[Nimi]

Hi SBDM,

I think Geoff said a lot of things that are really true of difficult situations like these. I am not a doctor or anything either, but I can relate to feeling incredibly sad and depressed and feeling like you do not have control over your life.

You have already taken a big step to recovery by being honest and having the guts to post a thread. It's scary for sure, but you did it. I think that this is also a sign that you are taking action and control of your life in some small way.

Have you been to a counselor before? I only suggest it because I know how much they have helped me in the past when my depression was hitting me really hard. I find it can be difficult to discern how to best heal and prevent these kinds of spiralling thoughts from interrupting our lives, since there are so many different options and of course we are all also different!

I hope that you will come to feel happier soon. Remember to have compassion for yourself too.

Nimi

[CalmCat]

Hi SBDM,

Thanks for sharing, and congratulation on taking the first step in talking about your mental health. By talking about mental health you can heal and achieve so much, including the healing others.

I've done mental health first-aid training and what I know has worked for others is talking to your family GP or a close friend about how your feeling.

I really hope the day gets better for you, just remember you've taken the important first steps in reach out to all on this fantastic forum.

Regards,

Doz

[Rumples]

Hi SBDM and welcome,

Sorry to hear you're struggling. Sounds like you've got a lot on your plate.

"I have this bouts of crying without a reason and I am irritable most of the time" - I've had close friends and family go through this same thing. Often, after speaking to their GP they've found very successful ways to treat it. Sometimes it was just a matter of sitting down with a counsellor and talking. Have you considered speaking to your GP? It might help?

"I get agitated with people around me very fast and I know it is not their mistake" - Considering what you're going through, I think most of us would be feeling the same. Is there anyone in your family or circle of friends you can talk to? Talking to someone often helps.

"I feel I am not liked by anyone and no one wants me anymore. even a joke or a humour from my partner feels like a nasty comment and I get offended easily" - Firstly, have you told your partner how you're feeling? Maybe they could help if they knew? From personal past experience I've found our partners are often oblivious that anything is wrong and are only too happy to jump in and help once made aware.

"I feel if I am not there people around me would be happier and probably better off" - Been in exactly that same place and that the world and the people in it were simply going on without me. I think you'll find this is all related and once you start addressing your other issues, a lot like this one will disappear. Mine did.

"I feel like I am a burden on everyone and no one needs me anymore" - Yep, been there, done that. I found by actively engaging in the things that I enjoyed, helped restore my sense of worth. Quite often we can sell our self short in our dark hours. It seems to go hand in hand.

"I also sometimes am verbally abused by people around me. Feel I don't have much independence in my life" - Perhaps because your irritable and out of sorts, those around you may be taking your behaviour and/or comments the wrong way and responding like this. Certainly something to think about.

I hope I've been of some help to you and that you start feeling better soon. Always remember, we're all just a key stroke away .

Would love to hear back from you xo

Rumples