Divorced, repartnered, blended family not working out

[StuartD]

I'm sure there's a lot of people out there with similar issues to me but I have never come across anyone myself! I happily divorced over 8 years ago and soon after met a wonderful lady with 3 kids of her own. For the last 7 years we agreed to keep our families separated (i.e. not blended) for the good of our relationship, and it worked well. Back in June I moved in to her home with her and her daughter (16yo). I pretty much sold or gave away all my possesions as my partner already had everything. So here I am with no personal possessions, no home to really call my own and nowhere else to go or to turn. In the last 6 months our relationship has soured to the point that I only feel like a guest or a servant. We no longer interact with each other and my partner doesn't seem to understand why I am sometimes upset. My 2 beautiful children live with their mother and due to her recent move I don't get to see them much. If I leave my current relationship I will leave with absolutely nothing.  I'm in my forties and I've nothing to show for my life. Q. Simply, whats the point!

[binthar]

Might just be time to take stock of your life and just see where you want to go with your life, reflect back on the relationship were there parts that you "just accepted" because it did not ruffle anyone's feelings. You happily divorced now that has to be a positive it appears that you are on good terms with your first partner but you are concerned about the distance why not establish a regular phone contact with them make a special time of their birthdays, its not the quantity its the quality that kids remember. My son from a previous relationship now 30 still talks about some of the things we did on access its all about quality. As for the possessions and selling up its a pit that many fall into but there is nothing that cant be replaced sure it will take hard work but set yourself some goals and work towards them one day at a time, you will have rotten days just accept them and highlight the good days

[StuartD]

Thanks binthar.Reflecting on my current situation is interesting in itself. It too has changed dramatically since the untimely death of my partners mum. I think it has had a profound affect on our relationship and further contributed to my problems. I am happily divorced because i am happy to be away from my first wife. Sorry for the confusion. I try to keep in contact by phone/text but the kids rarely get back to me, as all kids do/don't I understand, but them my mind goes to unhappy places wondering why they don't, what have I done etc. You did get me through the weekend though, thankyou. I have decided that all I can do for now is make the best of the time I do get with the kids. And you're also right about the possesions, they are just things that a lot of people struggle to have anyway. Im sure thats the least of my concerns. One day at a time. Thanks again binthar.