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Guest_53428614
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I've had a tough few years and think I have trauma that keeps coming up for me from what ive been through. As a quick summary without writing a huge essay the below traumas I'm trying to deal with: 

PTSD & PND from first born son (2016)

2nd baby was diagnosed with down syndrome and 25% survival so I had a medical termination as 13 weeks

Brain tumor (size of a golf ball) in 2020 and rushed into brain surgery, tumor was not cancerous but have regular checkups

17 year marriage, cohesion control (2022) managed to claw my way out of the marriage to leave

No family support in Australia all family in UK 

Mother in law and I got into an argument over her filming me whilst on a kids pickup, and I ended up being arrested for intimidation and went to court. (Never been in trouble with the police before) I was totally distraught by how the police treated me as the perpetrator. 

Suicidal and ended up in emergency

My best friend suddenly died at 39 years old in 2023

The same day I went to court I fell over afterwards and broke my ankle in 2 places and dislocated it, and had surgery

Son was diagnosed with ADHD and mild intellectual disability in 2023

I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2023

 

How do you deal with it all, most psychologist in my opinion are not good, mainly young and have no idea. feeling helpless and hopeless even though my everyday life is not bad at all, actually better than its been for years but these trauma's change you as a person. 

 

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tranzcrybe
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Trauma is similar to a brick wall:

  • If built above us, we live in fear and dread
  • Put it below us, we can stand taller on strong foundations

You have weathered the storm and tomorrow the sun shall shine... even as a different person.

How do you choose to see the world?

Guest_82741891
Community Member

So sorry to hear what you’re going through.

I’m in a tough situation myself and am in the process of trying to find someone that can help me cope but because I’m still in the denial phase I’m not getting very far.

Been married for 25 years, had many hurdles to overcome in that time as well as an emigration against my will. Too many moves and changes over the last 8 years and now we’re apparently getting divorced. I’m an absolute basket case, what was the point if this is how it’s all going to end!?!

You’ve had more hurdles to overcome than I have with the kids etc but we’re on the same page when it comes to losing loved ones and ADHD.

I’ve never actually participated in a forum before but my psychologist sent me this link after our appointment today so I thought I’d give it a go.