Desperate to talk to someone one

Ophelia_22 · ‎11-03-2016

Hi I joined this site when I had nowhere to turn and desperately needed just to talk to someone. I honestly thought this was a support site where desperate people like myself could connect in desperate times but all I received was an email telling me that I would be contacted soon....that contact from this site never came....not for me!

Even this site finds me invisible.

Guest_1055 · ‎11-03-2016

Oh I am so sorry Ophelia...

It is awful to feel invisible. You do matter, please please be reassured of that.

I don't know exactly what happened. But perhaps your post just needed to he checked by the moderators here or something?? Sometimes that can take a bit of time.

Anyway I just want to give you a welcome hug, if you like hugs. I hope you do.

You said you desperately wanted to talk. Well I am happy to listen. I am sure others would be too. Would you like to share a bit more or something?

Again I am so sorry, I hope you will be OK.

With kindness

Shelley xx

Guest_5218 · ‎11-03-2016

Hi there Ophelia.

I saw your original Thread titled "Lost and Forgotten", and I note that you did in fact receive a number of responses to your post. But I can also see that you have not replied to any of the responses you got on that thread. You do not receive any notification through email when you receive replies to your posts. So I am wondering if you have even seen those replies that you got to your post? Do you know where to find them?

If you are logged into the BB Website select the MY POSTS tab at the top of the page where you have the options of: All Posts, Recent Posts, My Posts. This will show you a list of all threads that you have posted to, including your own threads that you have opened. Any of your posts that have any new responses will be highlighted in a dark red colour. Just click on the individual thread and it will open up to any new posts since the last time you checked. I hope I have explained this okay Ophelia.

Certainly have not not been forgotten, and you are not invisible.

If you would like to talk, post a reply by selecting the Red REPLY button which appears at the bottom of each post. Tell us what you would like to talk about, and I'm sure you will get responses.

I am really sorry you are feeling alone, desperate and abandoned. I know you have attempted to reach out for support, and I'm sorry it appears that you have not received the support that has been given to you.

Sherie xx

Ophelia_22 · ‎13-03-2016

Hi Shelly,

Many thanks for your kindness. I'm really struggling at the moment and I did overreact with the loast post and I'm so so sorry and feel very embarrassed. My cloak of invisibility is rising. 😞

Guest_5218 · ‎13-03-2016

Hi Ophelia. I'm pleased you got back to us. Did you find the responses to your other thread as well?

I'm sorry that you are struggling at the moment, and when you are struggling it is very easy to overreact. I often do that too! ( - : But please do not feel embarrassed about it and there is no reason to apologise. You are among friends here, and we all understand.

Its horrible to feel that you are invisible and that nobody cares. Please accept that you are important and that people really do care for you. It is just the depression and/or anxiety that is telling you otherwise.

If there is anything in particular that you would like to discuss, please reply and someone will get back to you.

You dont have to do this on your own..........

Sherie xx

Ophelia_22 · ‎13-03-2016

Thank you for your kind words Sherie but, there is nobody in my life that cares enough to listen to me. Even after I have supported and listened and assisted others through crisis after crisis, I'm now told to "Grow up" "stop being so negative" "stop crying all the time" "get over it" "Stop looking for attention".

I'm NOT important, I know that everyone has problems and low moments in their lives, I'm not stupid, I'm not trying to take anything from their happiness or bring anyone down. I feel so bad because I know that people have much bigger things to deal with than I do so I understand why people don't have the time to deal with my issues. I would love to be able to see the joy in the small things again but, I am constantly reminded by my partner that "I'm not that special" and to "get a job" I agree, I need a job desperately to distract me. He says I have too much time on my hands and I'm ungrateful, which offends me greatly because I supported him and his children emotionally and financially for over 10 years.

I am so alone with myself I can't shake it, I can usually put on my pretend face but I can't find it anymore.

geoff · ‎14-03-2016

dear Ophelia, being depressed does make us feel invisible, no one wants to know us nor do they want to listen to how we feel, basically because they have their own issues to contend with, until they want to someone to talk to, then they feel differently, in other words that's not fair.
Even your partner doesn't understand your needs, it's not so much about going out and getting a job, sure he probably wants the extra money, but by doing this may not help you at all, because you have problems which no one wants to know about.
There is so much in your comment which we could assume but that's not how we want to work here, so I really hope that you can get back to us. Geoff. x

Zetta · ‎14-03-2016

Hi Ophelia,

I do understand how you feel, I find it hard to tell people I need help as I'm always the one who offers help first and love helping others. I have found the chat function on this website very helpful when I need to talk desperately to someone when I have no one else to talk to. I can understand the alone feeling in a relationship. I have had that happen me with my husband. Do you have a Good GP that you can talk to? I have a great GP and I go and talk to him when no one is willing or can't talk to me. And I have found the friends here on Beyond Blue is great in supporting us!! They will regularly check in on you to see how you are going!! Hope you can find some comfort here.

KInd Thoughts,

Zetta

Chris_B · ‎16-03-2016

Hi Ophelia, welcome to the forums and sorry to hear you are still struggling.

As Sherie explained, you received a number of replies in your original thread from our members who are waiting to hear back from you. As this thread is a double-up of that one, we'll close this one off so you can continue receiving support in that original thread. It would be great if you could reply to those members who took the time to reply to you as well:

Lost and forgotten

Please remember also that these forums are moderated and posts do not always appear straightaway. That is what the email you received would have told you. If you are needing immediate support, we can't provide that through these forums, but we have a 24-hour support line staffed by professional counsellors that you can phone on 1300 22 4636, or you can use the webchat function as Zetta has suggested.

Look forward to seeing you post again soon.