depression and lack of work

[froggy43]

Hello i,m not sure whats going on with my inner self so need so help to understand how i,m feeling i,m 43 yrs old female who has worked my whole life no children and am married to a kind man and is my best friend,about 7 months ago I left my job to work in a remote area with my husband this is something we have both done before but before I left I express I was not keen on this area do to it own problems but my husband told me he could do it without me so off we went and it lasted about a month and we were back home again. since then my husband has his own business and is busy but i can not find work the area we live in is not the easiest place to fine work and its really getting me down , i live in a rural area and some days only see my husband i have no friends down here because we have always moved around for work which seemed to suit and which I have no problem doing again with no children and use both having trades(i,m a hairdresser) theirs normally no problems,but my problem is my husband does not want to leave know and says i,m being selfish we have so much but i,m still unhappy am I being selfish?

[smallwolf]

froggy43,

Hi. Welcome to beyond blue.

It sounds like a bug change you have made. From working entire life to now living in the rural (remote?) area. My psychiatrist can find positives in being selfish, but if I were allowed to go out on a limb I think it is connections you are missing?

I am also wondering how far away from town you might live? Maybe a home hairdressing service?

I am also listening (reading) your post, so I am am also sitting with you at this time.

What about hobbies? Or other local groups you might join? Thinking out loud here.

Tim

[DannyG]

Hi froggy

i don’t think yr being selfish I think You need to cultivate some friendships and social things outside the home especially if yr partner is away sometimes

have tot thought Aboutaleb Volunteer Work? Or look for a social type of activity a walkiibg Group a book club, test type of thing. As a hair dresser u could rent a chair in an existing salon ?