depression and anxiety hits all time high

[Living57]

When I think it cannot get any worse, death of hubby 8 weeks ago mentioned in previous thread, i get broken in to. Police were called, fingerprinting done, but this or these low life scumbags entered my home. Yes they took plenty of stuff, but what is really killing me is that they took my hubbys wedding rings, bracelet, watch and signet ring. I am more heart broken by this than by other things that I have lost.

No I feel more uneasy about being on my own. My sleep, depression and anxiety was bad it has just gone through the roof. I doubt I have had more than a couple of hours of broken sleep each night. I hear every noise, real and imaginary. I dont want to leave the house for fear they may come back, even though I have been told it is highly unlikely.

I am at my lowest. I didnt realise I could cry so much. I just feel violated.

My family and friends are great support, but I cannot keep using them.

How the hell do I go on now? I have lost my hubby, my rock, my partner, my friend and these mongrels have done this. Life is so bloody unfair.

Feeling so sad, so lost, so angry, so down.

[Neil_1]

Dear Living

I can’t believe you’ve had to experience this now, on top of everything else that you’ve been going through.

You hit it in one – absolutely low life scum are ‘people’ (and I use that term loosely) who do things like this.

I’m so pleased that you have great support around you – but I feel that YES, you can keep using them at this time.  This is the time when you really need to be sheltered, to be cared for, to have support “on tap” for you.

I’m sorry I can’t offer you more than just words – if I could, I would.  I’d also like to hunt down those scumbags for you as well.  We were robbed many years ago and the feeling is just awful – such an invasion of your privacy and for low lifes like that to be in amongst the stuff that you’ve worked so hard for and yeah, I could go on, but you’re living this right now.

Please keep in touch

Neil

[geoff]

dear Living, I'm so sorry that we have not replied, except for my good friend Neil.

What these scum bags have done have put another notch in the passing of your husband, taking memories that you truly idealised, memories that connected you to your husband.

When my wife left me she took my ring and other jewellery that she had given me over our 25 years of marriage which I never knew, and she was burgled and everything was taken, but it was recovered at the pawn shop.

I'm sorry it's not about me, it's about what happened to you, and I also feel so devastated that this has happened to you, and please if your family and friends are actually there to support you, that's their choice and that's what they want to do, they understand what you are being dragged through, but they want to help you, so please take the comfort of knowing they are there.

There is one point I have said which you and your friends could check on, you maybe able to find them there, and cross our fingers. Geoff. x

[Guest_1055]

Oh Living57 I am so so sorry, my tears are for you.

[Paul]

Hey Living57,

I'm so terribly sorry that you have to have this ordeal on top of losing your rock and partner. I hope Karma serves those disgusting animals who stole from you.

I can only echo what the gentlemen have already said. Lean on your friends and family, they love you and are there for you. Is it possible to have a friend stay with you for a while in the house so you don't feel so vulnerable?

At the moment, things are about looking after yourself. Emotionally and physically. Eating healthily, and trying to minimise the effects of the depression and anxiety. If you have a Dr/Psychologist would it be worth a visit to chat about how your emotions have been ramped right up and that way they can help as well.

Look after yourself. I hope things become a little easier for you each day.

Paul

[mlal]

Hi Living, 

i lost my father four years ago, and watching it do what it did to my mum was crushing. I can only imagine what you are going through, but whilst it still is a major issue in both my mums and my own life it's to quite as hard. It was a year of aganosing sadness for my mum to improve slightly, which must sounds horrible to you. But the thing that helped her was to get involved in something. She adopted a dog which forced her to get out of the house. 

Four years late we both have bad days still, and life isn't how we would want it to be. We have both learnt how to live and enjoy things again. 

i remember when it seemed like there was no light at the end of the tunnel. Whilst it never goes away, you learn to coexist with it  and not have your fried control your life. 

Im so sorry for your loss. Things will get better  

sending love