Depressed

[Guest_44518917]

I am writing this because I find it difficult to explain everything I have experienced verbally. There have been so many events over the years that I feel I have carried a lot of pain without having enough opportunity to properly process it. I want my counsellor to understand the history behind how I am feeling now, including my IVF journey, pregnancy losses, the loss of my son, my medical complications, my recent premature birth and NICU experience, and the difficulties I have experienced in my marriage.

[Gameoveraus]

So sorry you are going through that, i know the difficulty of carrying alot of pain but talking to an independant person outside of the situation does help even if briefly.

If you aren't cmfortable with your counsellor or don't think they are taking it seriously, find another one.
I've encountered a few that are just writing notes but not really listening then palm you off to another service, on the flipside the first 2 therapists i spoke to 1 was just a volunteer in the hospital they were awesome i felt completely heard and they got it.

If you don't know what to bring up, which i get especially if you have alot of things. just start with an overview for them then cover a few things a session or write down notes so you don't get lost in your own thoughts.

[Psychdiaries2]

Hi there,

I warmly welcome you to the forums and hope you feel safe here. I'm sorry to hear about the loss and hardship you endured and I am glad you wish to seek support. I think a great step to take is getting a counsellor. You could talk to your doctor first if that helps, or you can speak to someone here at Beyondblue at 1300 22 4636 for confidential one-on-one support. 

You can also write posts here on the forums about the topics you wish to talk about (if you feel comfortable) and I'm sure you'll get a lot of replies and different perspectives. In the meantime, you can read the posts on here and I'm sure you'll feel less alone as we all express our experiences. 

Take care of yourself today and I hope to hear more from you soon. Sending my love ❤️

[LotusAfterRain]

Hi my friend,

Welcome to the forum.

I’m here to listen and support you.

It must be really difficult and frustrating to have carried so much pain for such a long time without having enough opportunities to talk about it or process what you have been through. I can imagine how hard it must feel when you also feel that your counsellor may not fully understand what you are experiencing.

I wonder if there might be an option for you to see a different counsellor, if you feel that your current counsellor isn’t the right fit for you. Not every counsellor is a good fit for everyone, and it’s completely okay to look for someone you feel comfortable with and can build trust with.

Do you feel a little better after sharing and talking things through on this forum?

Apart from your counsellor, is there anyone in your life who has been supporting you recently?

Warm regards,

Lotus After Rain