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Hey, Im feeling really worthless and feel myself getting really angry lately.I have lost all interest in my job and my relationship is suffering. I do all the basics like train and eat healthy but it’s just not working. I find it really hard to express how I’m feeling and just need some help otherwise I’m worried I will get worse.
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Hi, welcome
I've been down that road many times and I've concluded after several decades that we should go through a judgement period whereby we focus on the extent of the depression and where it could lead us.
If your depression is such that you feel its another period you will recover from relatively quickly then you could decide to weather the storm
If you are worried that your world is crumbling in all ways then, purely my own decision - I become more radical in my thinking. For example, having have one and only one attempt on my life, I never want to see a repeat, so prevention is better than cure. So what radical steps can you take that "could" lead to surviving mentally unscathed from this latest event?
- Change of environment. That could include - camping overnight at a campfire in the country to walking around the block and everything in between
- Change of employment/career and that could include 2x part time jobs rather than one arduous full time job
- Change of career to something more interesting and engaging
- Removal of toxic people from your life that could have more of a negative effect than you think
- Check your sleeping. Very under rated aspect of mental illness. If there's a hint of sleep apnoea then a sleep study should be sought - see your GP
- A general GP check up and chat (with your partner is best) and consider 10 free visits to a mental health professional, can be an amazing help
- You've written in here, thats great, we are open 24/7/365 so even on xmas day or in the middle of the night you can vent and wait for a reply.
I've got a few threads below, you only need to read the first page of each.
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/depression-and-the-timing-of-motivation/td-p/149708
I hope I've helped. If you feel worried note the phone number at the bottom of this page.
Reply anytime
TonyWK
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Dear Guest,
I have and am currently feeling the same way that you do, just different circumstances.
Things getting worse is a constant worry I have too.
I try to follow the routine of sleep, eating, exercise and expression/doing something I enjoy everyday. But it is hard. Motivation is a massive element of getting things done.
Expressing yourself can be conflicting depending on who you are talking too. One of the first things I did was write down all of the thoughts I am having into a small notebook. Noone has to see it, but it can get the thoughts out of your mind and down on paper. A small A5 or A6 notebook can be carried around discreetly. You could set a time to write or debrief in it everyday, if you are afraid others may notice. You can use this notebook to identify the most important thoughts to a mental health professional, if you choose to engage in one. And just trying is a great step. Small steps are still something. And they grow into bigger steps with time.
Blame is something we do when we don't have the answers to questions. It is easier to blame ourselves, by calling ourselves stupid or worthless and self-hate has a chance to grow. Try to identify these thoughts when they happen and stop them in their tracks. Is the thought rational? Is the thought reasonable? These two questions are priceless.
You came here to find help. I'd say you are pretty intelligent to me. And there is never any shame in asking for help, on this community, or professional wise. People may find professional help confronting, but it is actually quite easy. If you are willing to be honest, then the help you will receive will be reflected in that. And there is no judgement. Here either. I don't think there are things on this forum, that haven't been heard or said before. So you are amongst good company.
Hoping any of these things may help,in anyway.
ABC01
