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Continually made AWARE

Aware
Community Member

Today is my Birthday, and again it is a day that only makes me AWARE of how little I mean to people.

Yet another so called "Special" day where no matter how much I show my love and devotion to other's, and they all know that I have been struggling with Anxiety and depression, nobody even thinks of trying to give me an uplifting day. No morning"Happy Birthday" from my 13 year old daughter or my husband. I guess they forgot again. I regular thing I guess, and people wonder why you are struggling inside.

My mother hasn't wished me a Happy Birthday for year's, she usually rings me the next day when she realises she forgot, and tells me that she was feeling tired. It's actually a good thing, because all she talks about is my little brother. I have been forced to deal with issue's with them both for years.

Anyway, just sad to be made AWARE yet again

5 Replies 5

james1
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hey,

First of all: happy birthday!

It's so difficult when you're struggling and it seems like no one cares enough. Sometimes this is the case, but more often than not it's actually because they don't know how much you're struggling, or what to do.

It's very obvious to us, of course, because we have to live with it day in and day out, trying not to let it affect others. But sometimes that is our downfall - we keep too much to ourselves.

Perhaps today you can send a message to others to let them know it's your birthday and you'd like to do something to celebrate?

It'd be nice to have a bit of good family time, if that's what you'd like 🙂

James

SummerCrossing
Community Member

Hello,

Just wanted to say Happy Birthday 🙂

Hoping the weekend is kind to you.

blondguy
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi Aware

I think we have spoken before on your first thread,,I think... and please excuse the belated birthday wishes

HAPPY BIRTHDAY for the 28th 🙂

I can understand a 13 year old daughter 'forgetting' your (my) birthday....but your husband has no excuse...

(I have a 25 year old daughter and understand what you mean Aware)

I also have the same depression and anxiety issues but sometimes people just dont get it Aware

I hope you had a 'reasonable' day

my kind thoughts

Paul

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hello Aware, I'm very sorry to wish you a belated birthday, and it is very disappointing waiting for the phone to ring, which on many occasions doesn't, or the anticipation that your husband and daughter may surprise you with a gift, but none of this happens, it makes us feel unloved and really insignificant.
If this ever happened to me then I would be ticking them off for not remembering, it's one special of the year where you are still entitled to forewarn them a few days ahead, and then if they didn't respond I would be angry.
When we have depression/anxiety it's so easy to accumulate all the current issues that are making you feel worse, that's what this illness is capable of doing, and if you like you can pretend to forget about their birthday.
A very Happy Birthday, I know it's late and I apologise, but please let us know how the day went. Geoff.

monkey_magic
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi,

I just read your post today and I know it' s late but as they say better late then never so....

Happy birthday ! Happy birthday to you.....

I just hope you got a smile because 5 people just acknowledged you birthday that you' ve probably neve spoken to before.

So stick that to your family. Ha.

Hope you are aware that people did remember. Even if we haven't met you.

We are still celebrating...

Celebrate good times come on....

Is there a good birthday that you can remember?