Christmas, if your alone and might need to talk.

[Guest_1584]

l can't find a thread to suit a Christmas alone and all those feelings involved so l'll try this and if others out there are in the same position , your welcome to come in and talk.

Myself , it's crazy really that l even am alone and have been all week and will be all wkend too. l do have a few people in my life . Daughter, but she hasn't been well and will probably just stop home at her mums. A bother 20mins away, but he'll be down the city with his gf, a part time this yr anyway gf myself but she's been stuck up in Sydney most of the yr on legal matters and when not it's been Covid. We planned me going up but she doesn't have her own place, hotel prices this time of yr and Covid everywhere right now well. A huge family down in the city 3hrs away, hardly see them anyway but still, with Covid there right now too no ones having anyone over.

One way or another , alone for Christmas again, all wk actually and all wkend too. Since divorce 9yrs ago pretty well all of them have been alone , some with my daughter but l've always felt guilty anyway bc l don't have anyone else over to make it a bit more fun and Christmasy for her. Can't belive l'm alone , yet again.

There'll be so many people out there alone though, l know , it's very sad for the ones that might giva damn . Same old same old to l know , this stuff always hits many many people at Christmas time. Such a shame when even if your not into it , we'd all like a bit of joy if nothing else and most of us some company at least. l've even considered a going along to a salvos Christmas lunch or something except l don't need the lunch so that wouldn't be fair buttttt.

Feel free to to talk about your situation here if you like and as much as you like.

My best. rx

[Lauz22]

This is a great post and I hope it helps who it needs.

I absolutely hate Christmas. Its like an injection in society to be ‘happy’. What about those who don’t celebrate or have anyone to celebrate with.

I am single for the second Christmas post divorce. Living with my parents who dont celebrate so it’s just another day. It’s worse when every single person is posting online with their family, presents and celebrations.

I have ‘friends’ who won’t even check in on me which makes me think how is this a time of ‘giving’. It’s become to materialistic and capitalistic about physics gifts but ‘loved’ ones won’t even check in.

I hope you find some fun and nice activities to enjoy your day regardless!

[Guest_1584]

Hi lauz, and yeah exactly , so many make it about everything it's just not meant to be these days , you wonder if they can see themselves. And we live in such a money money and materialistic country these days too it just puts across wrong.

Just another day at your place eh , had plenty of those too nothing wrong with that . Don't touch sm or the like myself despise it in fact haha , but yeah l could just imagine the rubbish goes on.

Thanks for the wishes but ahh, not fussed myself it's left the building haha.Was feelin a little l don't know what or why last day or two but this morning , over it so all good. Great day yesterday good enough for me. You too hey in whatever you do .

rx

[mmMekitty]

Hello Lauz22,

I'm playing with Xmas. Not spending heaps of money, not religious, just in my own way, making it something I can enjoy, & making this day a little less lonely for some who feel so sidelined, ignored, neglected, & who are finding it really difficult seeing Xmas everywhere, but feeling they have no one.

It was never comfortable for me when people asked, with a certain expectation in their question that I OF-COURSE would indeed be spending Xmas with family when I wasn't. & then 'why?' like they couldn't believe my reply.

I'd begun to hate Xmas. Gradually, though, I found some fun bits. I'm reminded of myself as a very young child, before the downhill slide, when Xmas was magic, wonder & yes, toys & candy & colours & lights, & singing & such - we can select these aspects, & give ourselves a little holiday, open our hearts to our own little child inside.

I learned that becoming an adult meant leaving everything of childhood behind. I question that idea very much these days.

So, I would like to wish you a very happy & peaceful day, doing whatever fills you with joy.😸

mmMekitty

[Guest_1584]

ahh l dunno mk. Nothin wrong with keeping some of the child , people could use a bit of that these days actually. Or presents, l love presents haha. But eh , l love 1 dollar presents, home made presents or 50 dollar presents it's not about that but so many seem to totally lose the very spirit of things like that and the thought is just all wrong and lost.

Funny , for yrs l found anything Christmas such a norm and monotonous nut it was my ex w actually , taught me to enjoy it again and accept it and just have some fun, especially for your kids when they're little. So ours at home were beautiful , chill great food and lots of laying about or down the beach or whatever floated the boat . lt was only when we went visiting the in laws where she'd lose the plot a bit, exactly as we've been talking about. Family eh , it wasn't her fault , they were the ones like that so it put pressure on her.

Ho ho

[LC80]

Well I am spending the day completely alone. My wife has travelled to see her family, my children don't want to see me. That's a long, long story, so it's best left aside. I am suffering from an agonising spinal condition that requires regular medication to suppress the pain. My wife is checking in via text to see how I am managing. I feel this is the worst Christmas day I have spent. In reality it is just one day, just a lonely painful one. My way through it is to remember that there are many people who cope with much more than me. And tomorrow Christmas will be over.

[mmMekitty]

Hello LC80,

Does it feel quite so lonely to come here to BB & talk with us? I hope it helps to have this forum, because it does feel like I am talking to real people when I read & post 😸

So, really, though I dressed up for Xmas, I am really a person out here, wishing you a peaceful day, a day of less pain, at least.

I've found some music on You Tube. Googled a a few words describing the kind of music I want, & found some.

Do you have any friends you could phone? Leave a message, like I sang Wish you a Merry Xmas to my sis's voicemail! I'm thinkig of her getting that later & being very surprised. I've emailed a few people too.

& here, I am reaching out to folks like you, to let you know, people are here, even today.

mmMekitty

[quirkywords]

LC80

Thanks for writing here.

I am sorry you are in pain and alone.
what time will your wife get home..?

You acknowledge you are having a bad Christmas without comparing yourself to others.

Could you text your children.

We are listening if you wish to reply.

[Guest_1643]

Hi all

Happy holidays and new year.... I sorry it's rough, I feel u, the weird triggers hit me a lot this time of year.

[mmMekitty]

Hi Sleepy, how you doing? Sounds a little rough.

I hope you found some pleasure today, & that my virtual hugs find you, too. 😻🧸🌺❤️☮️

mmMekitty.

[Guest_1584]

Yeah it really seems to be the time for setting of many emotions of all kinds for so many, Not sure why that is when it's suppose to be the exact opposite, lighthearted and happiness, forgetting our wows and struggles even if just for a day.

rx