Hi Fixx
I believe that if we never meet anyone like ourself, there is the illusion that we're the 'odd one out' in society or we're so 'broken' in some way (compared to everyone else) to the point where we just can't be 'fixed'. Then if we happen upon people who are similar to us in certain ways or they've faced similar life circumstances, then we can say 'I'm a part of a group of people who I can relate to and who can relate to me'. Sometimes I think one of the hardest things in life involves not meeting those who are relatable.
As a 54yo gal who's faced a variety of challenges over the years, including mental health related ones, one of the greatest things I've learned about is the importance of wonder. With a sense of wonder we don't easily jump to conclusions that don't serve us, such as 'I'm unfixable'. Instead we can wonder about why such proposed fixes don't actually work. We can even wonder at the people who are meant to be guiding us in some way, whether they be professionals or friends or family members: 'I can't help but wonder how you can so easily slot me into this category or give me this label. Don't you ever wonder beyond such categories and labels, when it comes to who I may naturally be?'. And while we may be stuck questioning ourself, why does no one seem to wonder about whether our struggles may have more to do with the people around us. Personally, I've found the greatest guides in life can be those who lead us to wonder, as opposed to those who really don't lead us anywhere in particular.
As someone who likes to wonder both inside and outside of the square, I've found sometimes the answers we're searching for can be out there, as opposed to inside what is deemed to be 'the norm'.
