They treat me like I'm overweight and need to go on a diet

[Earth Girl]

My parents act like they are so much better than me in every way including with food even though my Mum eats so much junk food and a lot more of it than me. When I eat vegetables or fruit which I do every day, they don't notice, but when I eat something unhealthy, even if it's small and right after eating something healthy, they definitely notice that, and they only focus on it. 

My Mum is overweight, and she says that I eat too much unhealthy stuff like pasta, and I asked her when the last time was, I ate pasta because I can't even remember the last time, I ate it, and she said, "I see you eat it a lot" and then I said like when? I didn't eat it yesterday, I didn't eat it the day before and I was going to keep going but then she stopped me to say "well, if you only haven't eating it for two days..." and then I said that I haven't eaten it in ages. It's been at least a month since I've had it and I only had it once or twice last month which isn't much or over doing it in anyway, but she just fixates on it.

I'm never rude to her about all the junk food she eats. She keeps talking about her weight everyday which I really don't care about, and she says it's because of all the food that she eats that is making her big even though it's actually all the JUNK food that she eats so it's really annoying having her treat me like I eat too much unhealthy food when that's what she does!

This morning, she told me that she bought lots of salad that I could have some of and I could tell that she was trying to say that I was being unhealthy without actually saying it so I told her that I JUST had some broccoli and she said "That's good" and I said that it felt like she was trying to say that I eat too much junk food and she said "well, I do worry about it" and then I said "But what have I been eating?" and then she said that I eat too much pasta which is when we had the pasta argument, and I got really upset and she said "and now I have to have this blow up. You asked me a question, and I answered," and then I said "But you're not talking to me about it, you're just trying to escape, and I never tell you that you eat too much junk food and you're a hypocrite!

She would also say things like "You need to go to the gym" to my younger sister who is really fit (my Dad says things like that too).

It's really annoying being treated by my parents like this when they aren't even healthy themselves, especially my Mum. 

I'm a healthy weight and I watch what I eat and exercise. 

[Earth Girl]

It's really hard to talk to them about anything because they basically tell me to just shut up when I say my piece like it's all my fault. They don't want to talk through about anything, they just want to walk away and then they tell other people about it. Right now, my Mum would-be telling people at the club she goes to about it and saying that I'm so unhealthy and completely leaving out how much junk SHE eats.

Often times when there is a yummy salad that has just been made, I'll come over to it really excited and my parents will say something like "Now, I want you to have this salad because it is very healthy" and then I'll get mad because I was literally going to the salad to get some of it and then they get mad at me and tell me to shut up even though the just insulted me. 

They also make a really big deal about me not liking bananas because "they are good for you so you should eat them." It's like they don't realize that you don't have to like EVERYTHING that is healthy besides, avocado is healthy and has potassium, and I LOVE avocado. I had some just this morning before I had my broccoli not that my Mum would have noticed because she only sees the things I do that are wrong. 

When I went on walks with my Dad when I was younger, he would say "Go run to that tree, you need more exercise" which was really hurtful especially since I gave up on running for a long time because I was embarrassed to do it or any sport because my family would bully me and tell me how unfit I was and my younger sister would tell me how much I sucked at sport and my parents didn't care so I just stopped because I eventually couldn't take it anymore. If my younger sister talked to their golden child like that (my older sister, they would have cared, but since it's just Earth Girl, it doesn't matter.

I was even the one who started buying the salads from the grocery store so obviously, I like eating them, but my Mum acts like she is so healthy sometimes. She'll eat a salad and act like she's better than me even if I have also JUST had a salad or some other healthy food. 

A few months ago, I was eating something healthy, and my Mum was eating guacamole chips and when I finished my healthy meal, I asked her if I could have some of the chips and she said "You can if you want to. There's real avocado right there though if you want the real thing." Like, you literally were just eating something unhealthy and now you're talking down to me for wanting some of the same thing.

I don't know how to talk to them about it because they'll let me speak (for a couple of sentences) and tell me I am wrong and say that I got to say my piece even they didn't take anything I said on board.

[TrueSeeker]

Hello Earth Girl,

I remember how very upsetting it can be when our parents still treat us like a small child. It can take a bit for them to realise that you know what you're doing and how to do it. Our habits can get strong and it takes some time to break them.

Maybe calmly let them know that talking about food upsets you and that they can trust you that you're taking care of yourself. It can be very hard to be patient and calm about it but it could be worth a try.

Please take care of yourself and let us know how you're going

[Earth Girl]

Hello TrueSeeker,

Thank you for your reply. I shall calmly talk to them about it sometime and let them know that I am taking care of myself like you suggested. It's hard talking to them because even when I talk to them calmly and politely, they sometimes still get annoyed with me and argue or give me the silent treatment and won't just calmly talk to me about it, but hopefully it will go well.