Alone again

[jord]

Feels like I'm constantly alone. Most of the time, people only contact me when they want or need something. I've reached out to people a couple of times & I don't think people know how or can be there for me. I know I've set up these unbalanced relationships because of a need to please others. It just feels like when I need a little help or even human contact, wherever I turn, its not there. Feels like I need to learn to do everything alone, but there are times I just don't want to. I spend a lot of time on my own. I feel like I just need to connect, to not feel alone anymore.

[bman42]

I hear ya jord...I used to go out of my way to help family and friends and when I needed help they were never there. After a while I turned my back on everyone as I felt so let down by the closest people in my life. Although I would not recommend this as it has left me with no one! Pride can be a silly thing at times but its about all I got

It does get very tiring doing everything on your own. I am the very last person who should be giving you advice but go see a gp or have contact on  this site. Maybe one day I will take my own advice!!! Hang in there buddy

[Shifte]

Yep Agree 1000% People only contact me when its in their best interest i give up on society and friends

[vip]

HI Jord my son is name Jordan so felt bit connected to what you wrote. You know what time to say NO to these people and just worry about number 1 yourself. Do some voluntary work that really helps and gets you out there meeting people. Hospitals nursing homes are always looking for people. I volunteer heaps as being a depression sufferer for 22 years and I got stuck in a bit of a rut being at home on my own not mixing with people ect. I also have joined a gym 2 yearsgo and that is great too I have met heaps of people there all willing to chat ect. Find a new group of people to mix with when you find people use you eliminate them immediately. This happened to me too so dont worry I now have a small lovely group of people I associate with and lot of my friends have had depression so we have a ot to chat about. Bite the bullet and find something you would like to do and enjoy and assure you , you will find some really nice genuine people out there. Take care of yourself remember your number 1