What's a question you wished you got asked at school?

[MelanieL]

How are you? that's a question I wish I was asked at school...And I wish there was time to ask it and give time and space to explore it in our schools from an early age and the resources, human and otherwise to address it.
What's a question you wished you were asked at school?

[geoff]

dear MelanieLee, welcome aboard.

That's a very good question, how about R.U.O.K. Geoff. x

[MelanieL]

Hi Geoff, thanks and yes agreed 🙂 are you Ok? such an important question, too important to leave out in the daily lives of children...

[Vegetarian Marshmallow]

Eh.  "How are you?" is a stock-standard phrase, which means whenever it's asked, I assume the person doesn't really care, but is merely following empty social protocol.  I saw school counsellors a couple of times, but only about twice each - not long enough for me to actually get to trust these people and confide in them.  So I just said "Fine.  Yeah I'm fine.  I dunno, I guess I just need to work harder *fake smile*.  Bye."

It wouldn't have been so much about questions, for me, personally, 'cause I would have given you the answers I thought you wanted to hear.  What would have worked (and later did work) for me is a friend confiding similarly personal and vulnerable things to me, thus making me comfortable enough to reciprocate.  I didn't have any close friends in school, though.

[geoff]

dear Unclaimed Cabbage, if you said to me that your fine, then my alarm bells would start to ring, because FINE is an ambiguous answer.

It's a pretend word to me that means there is so much doubt in saying it, or a cover up word, because you want them to go, plus you don't want to have to talk to them. Geoff.

[Pixie15]

Hi Geoff,

I agree. I think "I'm fine" means either I do not really want to say because I am really feeling horrible or I am busy and do not want to think about it.

The question I wish I was asked is "Would you like to go to university?". The three options we girls were encouraged to pursue were nursing (training in the hospital), teaching (teachers college) and secretary (had to do shorthand). 

These days it is a lot easier to pursue an education. Just harder to know when you have enough of one. Cheers, Mulberry.

[Gruffudd]

Do you want to play? I think I would have liked that. Mind you I was fairly happy in my own little bubble. 

[lookingforme]

I was actually asked if I was okay, from a teacher who had nothing but concern on my face.  For me it wasn't what I would have liked to be asked, it's what I would have liked to have said.  But the answer was, surprise, surprise, I'm fine

[geoff]

why don't you want to join us ?

[topsy_]

"Fine" always makes me chuckle Geoff. Every good/wise husband knows when the wife says"fine" then things are most definitely not lol.

I actually did approach a teacher for help in Year 12. I wanted her support re abuse at home. Instead she rang my parents & told them what I said. There was hell to pay when I got home. Lesson: it didn't pay to ask for help. It was many many years before I tried again.