The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[Raynor]

You always make me smile Sara - thanks 🙂

You're right, I wouldn't judge you on how you look. I'm not like most people.

Rayne

[startingnew]

You can rant as much as your like Rayor- though im not too sure how to respond but im hearing you ok and i too have faith in you as well- hugs to you

Inner Strength-
you asked what im unsure about- well what am I sure of is a question
haha- casue I dont have many answers- but in relation to this I class
myself more as bi as I like men and women
im more into men but as recent ive had like a 'crush' feeling on a women and im quite comfortable with that. Theres 2 things im unsure about and one of those just because I have feelings one and feel more comfortable with women does that make me Bi still? I dont know how to come out about it either but I dont think I will come out about it yet or ever. I
might just let people figure it out themselves. It good talking to
you too- I hope to get to know you abit more too

haha lol Sara- nice
Joke. I couldnt help but giggle myself lol. Im the same- most of my
personality is tomyboy though, I can be a girly girl though just not
very often lol. Sara I dont mnd you talking about me- im hoping its
good though. Lol love the new nickname youve got going there (sweetie
pie) reminds me of the my little pony character. Though I can see
your proud I can feel a lot of dissapointment coming when you read my
Not coping thread...
I kinda feel the same as you in a way with the different days is different feelings- I have a lot of confusion about a lot of things over the past few days- which are extremeley embarrassing for me as well- but some days I like men some days I like women

Hi MsP 🙂 hope your doing well

[inner_strength_]

Hi Raynor – thank you for the welcome, look forward to talking. Also, didn’t mean to take away from your message. I’ve only just noticed you posted and it didn’t appear when I’d replied to startingnew.


Hi Just Sara – Aww you’re so sweet and of course!

Haha smooth.

Thank you for the warm welcome – aw that’s a shame, thank you for retyping! 😛

Yes, yet another lovely person! That’s incredible!

Kept reading and felt so grateful for such a long message haha! Well thank you for the catch up, ha like how you put it! You’re too funny!

There are definitely a lot of labels within the community which can in some ways make individuals feel limited/pressured to identify – can be exhausting! Definitely know of the stigma that bisexual individuals face which I don’t agree with it not being taken seriously! Do feel it can be in ways, more challenging for bisexuals but don’t let it deter you - you are who you are!

Definitely understand that! It’s complex. Perhaps, it is your gender ‘identity’ that confuses you in dressing feminine and tomboy – it is of course okay to be and dress the way you want and I think it is so incredible that we don’t have to be limited to certain stereotypes, genders or sexualities.

That’s the thing - I think that we can identify as so many things which are visible (tomboy, white..) and obvious, so sexuality is one that people get pressured into labelling (could be wrong). Originally used identify ((hmm what’s another word we can use? Ha) myself as it seemed to work. Do know what you mean about it though. Love that, definitely do what continues to make you happy or feel like yourself.

Really love aside from so many other strong women and other gender/sexual identities on YT – Ari Fitz. She has a simple but sweet video about labels called ‘I’m Bisexual…?’ which you may enjoy/relate to (plus startingnew (Essen) and MsPurple - Hi MsPurple!) - she is beautiful and masculine/tomboy and kind-natured and empowering.

Can definitely understand that. Oh my goodness, that’s horrible! Really hope you got the right help for overcoming that. What I’d say is that you are deserving of love, just like everyone and hope you continue to look for that in whichever gender if that is what you want x

[inner_strength_]

continued... website crashed earlier (oops!)

Even if some days I’d say 'I don’t care what people think'.. there are a number of small things that make me realise I do and I’ve really worked on that for a while. For yourself, if you 'identify' just to make other people comfortable or answer their questions of your sexuality – then give yourself a break and just be you.

It is tricky to know how words come across when read on these forums – hope my words are considered friendly and only hope to offer light-hearted replies!

Oh boy! I’ve typed a lot.

Aww thank you, I’d love that too! It’s nice to feel apart of something like this especially with such lovely people!
That’s so damn sweet!




To you too! x

[startingnew]

HI Inner Strength will respond properly to your latest post soon

i did reply but it was modded in time for you to read that before you responded just now

i did respond jsut before you posted your msgs

hugs to you

[startingnew]

Hi Inner Strength that is quite a response and a good one at that im abit tired to respond properly right now but i did writie a response jsut before you posted yours but its only been able to be viewed as you were posting yours so you wouldnt have seen it- just thought id let you know

hugs to you 🙂

[inner_strength_]

haha! That's awesome that you are comfortable with it.
Maybe it's appreciation and acknowledgement from women that you like/prefer.
Maybe your feelings are more emotional over physical.
As a female, you can always crave female interaction more as they are more complex (no offence to men) and more easily relatable from experience ha!
As you said, you may not. If you don't want to then don't. Pressure is hard and I know societal pressure can be harder if you are concerned you might feel what you do now and in 5 years may feel the opposite. It's tricky but labelling can be unnecessary if it is causing more harm than good.
Accepting yourself is hard, there are so many things I'm working on accepting like everyone and trying to tell myself to give myself a break and not needing to figure out everything straight away.
It frustrates me that of this community that we have to feel we owe someone the pleasure of coming out. That's why I let my family/friends figure it out for the most part. Maybe saying you are fluid if you feel you have to say something.

Have a good rest of your weekend x

[startingnew]

Goodmorning everyone 🙂

Inner Strength- i am comfortable with whatever it is i may be but im just unsure of really what i am. But i still have a while to figure it out i guess. And i guess we are always changing.

I dont know what it is i feel. It is hard to distinguish my feelings ad half the time its confusing to me let alone others but this forum community is great for this sort thing. And thr loveley Sara has helped me more than i can thank her.

Hoping your weekends going well too 😊

[Lonelydan]

Hi Raynor, how you going mate, sorry to hear about your silly psychologist giving you worries. I know a lot of trans people from my time living on the streets. It's a long process you'll have to suffer don't be afraid to show your masculine energy. From what you said I think his making sure your doing it for the right reasons not because your parents maybe wanted a son. You have no control over your family beliefs, reactions tell him that and I'm not a child seeking approval. I have always said to people who have a problem with my existence pay my way in the world or shut up. When you start on your hormones and you will the changes start happening quickly and you will feel so much better. Danny...

[Lonelydan]

Hi Steph sweetie, stop worrying about things take a fatalistic approach I know you will meet someone special. The gay community can be a very fickle and these days are so body image conscious it's horrendous. The community can be its own worst enemy and it's really only a small percentage of the actual gay/bi population. Most of us don't want to parade around in our underwear or be known as the town bike it's certainly a turn off for me. You have done so well for yourself with your studies and new job be patient your reward is coming. Danny....