making more friends and doing more things

[car10001]

hi everyone

was wondering how you could make more friends and how you could get a girlfriend, also how would you get invited to more weddings.

wondered because there was recently a second cousins wedding but it was interstate and couldn't afford to travel there and seen on instagram some photos of catch ups and some girl second cousins dressed up and seen photos of couples together and cousins together and it made you realise how much you want to dress up a little and go out and dont have any friends or a girl to do it with.

on a cousins wedding a very long time back had photo taken a while back with a girl cousin and on year 12 formal 18 years ago took another cousin and just miss those days.

dont have a girl yet and some friends that would be able to dress up a little and go out with on dates and its taking so long and some days am feeling like it may take a long time if it ever happens.

what would be a solution to find a girl while working in a industry that works different hours to everyone else until am able to get out and get into a industry with better hours and that you are able to plan ahead and know when you work and not possibly be called in on days off.

can understand why so many gave notice in the food and retail industry in last few years after not being back for long after shutdown and would have done same if it wasnt for everyone.

how would you ask someone you know or knew from school or a friend to go out with you.

if anyone can help with some answers itd be much appreciated

thanks

[smallwolf]

hello.

I can understand how you're feeling, and it's completely normal to want to make new friends and find a girlfriend. And being in an industry with different hours can make it challenging to meet new people. 

On making friends... the best way to make new friends is to put yourself out there and engage in social activities. You can attend events and gatherings in your community or join a club or group that interests you. For example, if you like hiking, you can join a local hiking group. Making friends in a group setting is also an excellent way to introduce your friends to each other.

You could also reach out to old friends or acquaintances you haven't spoken to in a while and catch up with them. Having a supportive network of friends can increase your sense of belonging, reduce stress, and boost happiness.

On finding a girlfriend... It's understandable to feel frustrated about not finding a girlfriend yet, but remember that these things take time. If you're interested in someone you know or used to know, you can ask them out by being honest and straightforward. Perhpas you could ask if they would like to go out with you for a coffee or a movie. The worst they can say is no, and that's okay - it's taken me 50 years to work that out.

As we get get older it can be harder to make connections, so making friends and finding a girlfriend can take time, but it's essential to put yourself out there and engage in social activities.

Good luck, and I hope this helps.

[car10001]

what would be a solution to find a girl while working in a industry that works different hours to everyone else until am able to get out and get into a industry with better hours and that you are able to plan ahead and know when you work and not possibly be called in on days off.

can understand why so many gave notice in the food industry in last few years after not being back for long after shutdown and would have done same if it wasnt for everyone.

also some of you may know by now that am wanting to go onto other things for work.

was wondering with your part time business how you would get time to take on small jobs without working 7 days a week (between your paid work and voluntary work) while you are still at your current paid job that takes nearly all your time being that you work for a industry thats a 7 day a week and not knowing when you work.

reason is that am wanting to do a little bit of the part time business but as some of you may know am working for a 7 day a week place and with that you never know when you work and also do voluntary work and want to keep going with that and dont have a lot of time left and want to have days off as well.

once am able to leave the current job then will be able to do that as the replacement job and will have more time to take on that side work.

what would be a solution to have time to take on some of the jobs while am working for a place that runs 7 days a week and the voluntary work and be able to have the usual time most everyday people do to have a life.

you may or not know that the owner of the place am working at has it for sale and while it is sad have however accepted that after 14 years of 7 days a week (so far) that its time for them to do it and for some of us to do other things for work while we still can.

how would you get the word out there about what you do

wont make 20 years in the current paid work as been doing hospitality nearly as long as the business has been running and trying to hang on until it sells and may go sooner depending on how long it takes to sell.

do you recon theyll close if they cant sell and will it sell before 20 years is up or is it upto you to make the move and not wait around.