Getting up

[Zangers]

Hi All,

I'm an older woman with a long history of depression (since my teens but on meds since age 40) and some seriously unhelpful responses to feeling down and unmotivated. The two key maladapative things I do are: 1. not getting up in the morning and sometimes not all day 2. not getting active/socialising even though I know that will make me feel better. I think if had day-to-day encouragement to get up and get moving I'd do a lot better than I am most of the time these days. I've recently had a relationship break-up which has forced me to rely more on myself instead of expecting my partner to do the heavy lifting with me.

I'd love to support others with mental health concerns because I'm actually pretty good at that kind of thing and supporting others makes me feel better. Also because if I help others, hopefully others will help me . . . .

Looking forward to hearing from you.

[ViolettaZ]

Hi there,

It’s completely understandable that after so many years of dealing with depression, it can feel like a constant battle to break free from old patterns. But the fact that you're reflecting on it, and thinking about ways to change shows that you're already taking important steps toward progress.

One small idea to help with those mornings when getting up feels hardest is to set your alarm to a positive or encouraging sound. Maybe a voice saying something like "You’ve got this" or "Today’s a fresh start" could help gently nudge you out of bed with a bit of extra motivation. It’s a small thing, but it might make the start of your day feel a little lighter and more hopeful. You can even choose a soothing or uplifting song to start your morning off in a positive way.

Socializing can be energy-draining, and it’s important to listen to your inner voice. You might find that your body is trying to protect your energy. If that’s the case, it’s okay to take some time for yourself.

I love that you want to help others, especially with your experience and understanding of mental health. Sometimes, supporting others really does have a way of bringing light back into your own life too.

The kindness you offer to others can also be a source of healing for yourself.

Take care of yourself, and be sure to leave some grace for yourself:)

Warm regards🤗

ViolettaZ

[melodica]

Hello 

Reading your post, I am struck by your resilience and your ability to reflect on your situation. Despite the years of depression, you want to help others, which is fantastic. 

I, too, have suffered from depression and anxiety for many years. Having a reason to get up in the morning really helped me. For me, that was my children and my pet. Also, I have my favourite alarm-sound music and a simple morning routine. It can be hard at first, but after some months, it becomes more normal. 

The Beyond Blue forums here are a great place to begin giving back to others. Community is so vital to our mental well-being, and if it is hard to socialise in person, consider online options. I attend several peer support groups online, which help me feel less alone. 

I hope you feel supported here, and I look forward to hearing from you soon if you so choose. 

[Doors24]

Dear Zangers,

 I believe that with depression, those 2 things are quite common and many people deal with them, myself included. Getting up to face the day can be hard if you are overwhelmed. Sometimes sleep doesn’t help. And social situations can be daunting and it is easier to hide in my bubble.

It can be a mental struggle to keep pushing forward. But you are not alone. Perhaps you can treat yourself for going for a walk. Maybe a smoothie when you get home? Then the walk helps with sleep. There are also walking groups that you could try. Don’t have to commit to them. But you would be exercising and socialising at the same time. Your local neighbourhood house may have some to try. Sometimes for me, just getting out of the bed shakes off the cobwebs. I don’t know where you live, but could you get up and eat breakfast by people watching? Or playing a crossword or puzzle as you eat or drink a coffee/tea? I brought a tin of assorted teas,awhile back and tried a new one everyday. Most of them tasted terrible,but each day I was going to find out in the morning.

It is great you have such emotional empathy for others. You sound like a very nice person. You could also dedicate some time to coming on this forum or others and reply to others to provide support.

And like we all know, routine seems to be the key. It is okay to take a few running starts before one sticks.

Most of all just trying is something. But it is something positive.

Feel free to chat back if you have anything else on your mind. I like human connection and am finding these forums to be helpful.

Doors24