Why Does Everything I Do Go Pearshaped?

[Guest_1573]

Hi All

Yes me again. There has been a lot of drama recently regarding the dear dog I fostered....suffice it to say I wrote a scathing report on the website and I was called up and had to discuss why I said what I did. I again was made to feel like a total nutcase. All I wanted to do was rescue the dear soul and there was so much backstabbing and gossip and it made a heck of a lot of trouble. Basically one particular individual was making trouble from day one and I do not understand why. She lied to me and she played chinese whispers and upset a lot of people. All I ever did was state my concern about the lack of follow through and the lies that were told to me about the dear dog.

I do not know how I get myself into these situations over and over again. Deep down I think it is because I care so much and I get infuriated at people's lack of conscience and so forth. I seem to be an ars.hole magnet. Various people treat me like an absolute imbecile and it is getting to the point where I don't want anything to do with anyone.

Yes I was wrong to post the review and five hours after I deleted it as I felt bad. But....the bu..shi. they put me through upset and infuriated me so much it made me feel better at the time. Everything I said was true.

I felt so bad I donated $500 to the group for the dogs. I still feel bad and I still have had no communication regarding the dogs I have applied to adopt. Why are people so mean and horrible? I just don't get it.

So I am now in a hole that I don't even care to crawl out of. This recent debacle has just stirred up memories of all the good I have done in the past that was negated by horrible, selfish and cruel people.

I don't know anymore. It is not even worth trying as everytime I do something to help it goes wrong and I end up being the bad guy. Because I stick up for myself and the dogs! Ugh I hate most people right now and I don't think I will pursue rescuing a dog from any of them. Very traumatised and upset.

Thanks for reading.

[white knight]

Hi again

Re: "So I am now in a hole that I don't even care to crawl out of. This recent debacle has just stirred up memories of all the good I have done in the past that was negated by horrible, selfish and cruel people." Kind of sums up society, where ever you go. Not saying there is a lot of work you likely need to do to AVOID such situations but those with any form of mental health problems need to back away into their own little world a little. Some techniques include-

• Be civil and brief. Eg meet up with a neighbour you know can be abrasive, Small talk and 20 seconds later walk away.
• You dont work in a job to make friends, you do it for money
• Learn how to screen friends for narcissistic ways

The $500 you donated? Well likely wont be valued as the great effort you made. Sorry.

Re: "Yes I was wrong to post the review and five hours after I deleted it as I felt bad."Time heals, break away for a few weeks then return. People generally forget and new members arrive without prior knowledge. Be patient when you make mistakes.

Interpretation. Some people willingly latch onto others flaws. This will leave you without trust.

Here is some really helpful ways to go about the above.

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/relationship-and-family-issues/fortress-of-survival

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/toxic-people--who-are-they-

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/want-to-be-a-hermit-

Hope that helps

TonyWK

[Guest_1573]

Thanks again for helping me. I am so upset and disillusioned.

Again I will check those links. Anything to help me stop making the same mistakes over and over again. It is very hard being me.

xx

[white knight]

You certainly have the right attitude. Patting yourself on the back for the positives is a good start.

Remind yourself, exile learning, to stop short of criticising yourself too much.

Only humans make mistakes

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/the-best-praise-you'll-ever-get

TonyWK

[Petal22]

Hi Panicmerchant,

Im sorry this happened.

I understand it’s hard sometimes when we only want to do the right thing.

Sometimes when we are feeling upset or angry we went to express that anger but unfortunately the people that it’s aimed for aren’t consciously aware enough to understand fully where the person is coming from who’s angry it just doesn’t register.

Some people are on a higher level of consciousness than others.

If I don’t understand someone’s behaviour I just tell myself we are on different levels and it puts things into perspective for me.

Keep yourself on the higher level on the scale and stay up there don’t allow mean people to drag you down.

Choose your own energy vibration and work on it so you can’t be dragged into lower vibrations.

[Guest_1573]

Needless to say I have not had any thanks for the $500 donation. I don't care. At least I know I am a decent person and if others want to act like spoiled two year olds that is their choice! In fact that is an insult to two year olds...but you get my gist.

I am now in the process of adopting a hound from a very professional organisation. The difference is astounding. At least they take the time to match the pooch to their potential owner. Had a one hour interview and yard check last week. I am so very excited as they will be emailing me their matches later today!

I know having a dear doggy in my life will make everything so much better. I miss my beloved girl so much. It has been 3 months now since she left :(. And in that time everything has been awful with the poor foster dog that was palmed off on me etc. She is doing amazing and is most likely going to a new home very soon.

Anyway thanks for your support. It truly means a lot to me. xx

[Guest_1573]

Dear Petal22

Much appreciate your response to my post. I am not a horrible person by any means. It takes a lot for me to fire up. Anything involving animals will most certainly set me off. When I went out of my way to rescue that dear dog; spent hundreds of dollars; got no support or answers...well there you go..disaster waiting to happen.

Then having a person at the kennels gossip about me and make trouble between me and the group....?? I will never understand people. They are supposed to be all about the animals welfare. Well they clearly are not. A bunch of bitter and awful people.

Anyway I have done nothing wrong; in fact I spurred them all on as the dear doggy I had tried to foster is now having an enormous amount of care and training. Which she needed when I had her but was not forthcoming. She is doing really well and I do not have to worry about her anymore.

It is so hard being like me; I care so much and get kicked in the teeth over and over again. It is very sad that their are so many bloody horrible people involved with these organisations. Thankfully there are also some very lovely people and I have met with them recently.

xx