Where to from here?

[Vexen]

Hi Everybody,

I wanted to see if I could get some advice should it be available from someone that went through a similar issue.

It's 2020, I feel like i'm in one of the most damned generations of all time. I'm a 25 year old male currently going through a "quarter life crisis" stuck living with my parents, Bachelors in Business in management with no work experience in a skilled position. Trying to find a place in the world so I can become independent. Probably a lot of people in a similar boat.

In short, I currently work in a car parking role with a solid organisation that I fell into about 12 months ago. It's likely to get me through this potential recession that we are about to have. It's not feasible for me to quit my job and I can't move out of home as I only make minimum wage. I can't seem to get better employment to give me a better standing to support myself which has caused a high sense of frustration. I'm also finding that management may not be something that I am particularly suited to as I have begun to want to pursue a more specialist based role. I thought about joining the ADF due to their training for a specific role however I get anxious about joining in general and it's still on the drawing board as a potential idea.

Doing another degree to get me qualified for another specific job is not feasible and I literally got through my degree by a very small margin so I don't like my chances of passing again. It also can't guarantee me a job or career to follow for a considerable amount of time.

In saying that, I want to avoid a life where I only make 40k a year in a dead end job with the constant thoughts that I won't amount to anything while living in constant first world poverty. I know that by default I have it better than a lot of people in the world but I definitely know that a lot have it better than me in society and I feel that I'm not up to scratch as a result.

My social life is very limited in all directions of life which makes things even worse. I feel that I am constantly on my own with everything, it becomes difficult to bounce ideas when there's not many people around. I've talked to careers people that also can't really help my situation or walk around it and give holistic advice that really doesn't help me resolve the issue.

There's a fair bit more, but I'm trying to keep it brief.

Any advice would be appreciated.

[Gambit87]

Hi Vexen!

Welcome to the forums!

'I can't seem to get better employment to give me a better standing to support myself which has caused a high sense of frustration' - I know those frustrations all to well.

I turn 33 soon, I hit 10 years in a dead end job in 28 days (yay long service leave). 10 years in a job that has taken me no where and that really gets me down. Its partly to blame for my mental health issues and I've spent so much time comparing myself to others and wanting better for myself - I kinda lost focus on what I have.

Is my job a dead end job that will lead to anything in my current place of employment? Sure, BUT its a job. My job is relatively easy, I only work 40 hours a week, I don't work weekends. My job pays my bills, food, travel, my taekwondo classes, my psychology sessions. My job allows me to buy my girlfriend dinner from time to time and I don't earn that much more than you! In the grand scheme of things, I'm feel im doing pretty well in life! Do I want more out of my job and career? of course I do! and that will happen.

Your job/career does not define who you are! Its not what you do in life, its how you live your life that matters.

My advice would be -

relax a little! you are still young. you are not going to achieve everything you want all at once.

Don't compare yourself to others - its extremely toxic. I know.

career advisers can be hit and miss - talk to people in the industry you want to get into.

Chin up mate - you'll get there!

[Vexen]

Hi Gambit,

Fair call, I'll take to your advice, at least there's still a runway for some time.

Not the best position in life, although it could be worse.

Either way, thanks!