Unable to make a decision

[Suzi]

• I know there are things I need to address and soon but I am unable to make a decision.  I had hoped that by not making it that something would force my hand and then I would have no choice but to make it but that has not happened.   I am not in a good place mentally and physically and yet find myself wanting to go through with something/ a decision but not having the guts to do it or see it through.  I know what the end result/outcone is if I chose to do it but it doesn't make it any easier.  I know what my friends and family would like me to choose but I worry if I make the wrong decision I will end up hurting someone, either disappointing them or disappointing myself.  It is a no win decision.  Someone is going to get hurt and I don't want to be reasponsible for that so I don't make the decision.  Maybe that's the answer.  When in doubt do nothing.  Maybe something will change and that decision gets taken out of my hands.  

[Behere]

Hi Suzi

i find myself in a similar situation where I do not want to hurt somebody close to me but staying in the same situation and waiting for my circumstances to change is also hurting them. It has helped me to try and look forward in my case maybe in a years time and ask myself how do I want my life to look I am focused on that and how to get there even if the journey is messy and I feel I have let people down 
I would also say you don’t really know how people are going to react Events rarely turn out how you expect them to 

kind regards 

behere

[Suzi]

Thank you

[trying_my_best]

Hi @Suzi!!!

Decisions are always tricky… especially when they’re ones loaded with pressure from family and friends. I am wondering, have you confided in one close friend or family member on where you feel stuck in your decision? 

I am currently finding myself in the position where I also need to make a big decision, but in order to feel I am making the correct decision I need to talk to someone about how I feel in regards to my choices and where I am at mentally with the decision. I think this could benefit you as well.

Wishing you the best 🫶

[randomxx]

Hi suzi and all.

Same here actually been going on 12mths now , t's a biggie that will change my life , hopefully for the better if l went with it butttt, maybe not too. There's a bloody long thread around here all about it where l've been working through it all with a few people.  Butttt, just this last wk actually, l 99% sure it's finally been made and tbh, l feel pretty good about it too- worried and tired, but relieved.

l normally go with my gut which has always been very accurate but on this one l just couldn't hear it, can you hear yours ? Is there anything screaming at you or a sickly feeling one way but relief the other - or goods ?

Go on with your thread, try to work it through , it was a huge part in me finally making mine.

Good luck eh and to everyone else here with theirs too.

rx

[Suzi]

Thanks.  No I am numb and this is why I an unable to make the decision either way.   My gut like yours at one stage did tell me and I always trusted it but this time nothing!  Just don't feel anything.  

[Suzi]

No to really confiding anyone, they have their own things going on and I do not want them to worry. 

Sounds like it would benefit us both to chat.  I am ready when you are.