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Social paranoia

Athenry
Community Member

I’m not really sure what the point of this post is. I just feel kinda alone but I’m also distancing myself a bit. 
I’m struggling with my hormones so bad and I think I’m imagining people are mad at me and I don’t know if they are or not. Sounds a bit silly, I know… but the intrusive thoughts really suck. I don’t really have many close friends and I wish there was someone who understood. Pretending to be fine is really hard. 
❤️

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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi welcome

 

Wondering what others think is pure worry and worry only produces ulcers, it has zero benefit. Thinking on the other hand can be useful as you might create some strategies. See the difference?

 

So this worry of whether others are angry at you needs 1/ clarification which is best achieved by direct communication of which you will find the majority of replies is "no I'm not angry at all with you", which will give you much relief and solidify your friendship. It will also provide an opportunity to explain (in brief) of your fears of others views if they are unclear to you 2/ or you can realise you have intrusive thoughts na dplan a catch up soon to monitor their reaction during which time you could drop lines like "gee, last week I thought you took offence when I said ...." It's the same outcome however this way you appear to not be making a great deal about it with a direct call over one topic.

 

Nothing in mental health problems are "silly". You seem to have some lack of confidence and this is the area imo that you could focus on because any increase in self esteem will advance your ability to communicate effectively and such intrusive thoughts will diminish.

 

However there is also room in all of us to create acceptance of ourselves. Eg say to yourself "Athenry... you have intrusive thoughts and that is normal for ME, it's ok, I can walk, talk, use a computer... I'm lucky, I just have to accept that I have restrictions some of which I'll overcome and others that will remain, as long as O make progress- nothing matters about it, 100% effort is good enough"

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X30sWycWz4o

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BhrtbBrMQ1Y

 

The above links are by a man called Maharaji. He has many videos on Youtube. Creating relaxation sessions listening to his teachings might well be beneficial.

 

TonyWK

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello Athenry, part of not being sure about posting this comment is a part of your intrusive thoughts and strugglingwith your hormones means you might be 25 or under, so you can contact also contact Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800 by phone or online 24/7 and it's free.

Remember these intrusive thoughts can control your thinking and try to make you believe something that isn't right, they doubt what is real to make you think another thought and often happen when people are suffering from OCD, which I also have myself.

The reason you think you don't have any friends are because these thoughts question why you should and you could be afraid of developing friends.

Talk these thoughts through with a these counsellors and please get back to us.

Geoff.

Life Member.

Petal22
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi Athenry,

 

Intrusive thoughts do suck, I understand.

 

Intrusive thoughts can make the person who is experiencing them disengage from other people ( especially the ones the intrusive thoughts involve)…

 

This could be because of the what if questions that come after them and the analysing.

 

The anxiety that can accompany these thoughts can be very overwhelming.

 

Have you tried to challenge these thoughts?

 

You don’t have to pretend your fine, it’s ok not to be ok…..

 

You could discuss how you are feeling with a gp this will get the ball rolling in getting you the help you need and in time returning you back to recovery and feeling whole again.