Social anxiety experience

[olly1]

I forced myself to interact with friends today because depression. It was ok, however it felt awkward and paranoid. I hope I faked it enough to not embarrass myself. Hope they didn't notice my uncomfort. Rather than feeling like my social battery has been charged, I feel an attitude of lethargic disappointment. I feel so much a outsider.

[blondguy]

Hello olly

I have a similar feeling of being 'over aware' of what other people are thinking too. It can be hard work I agree.

I know it may not be much help to you Olly1 but have you ever thought that at least half of the other people in the crowd may be worried about what you think of them?

I do understand the lethargic disappointment though...You seem to have not only interacted but have had the strength to do so in the first place....

Good On You 🙂

Kind Thoughts

Paul

[olly1]

Thanks Paul. I was being negative and catastrophising. In reality yes I function well in social situations. I can and do enjoy people and social situations. Sometimes I need to put more effort in. Ultimately I am responsible for my own happiness and how I feel is what I think.

Thank you for reminding me. I always forget.

Olly😊

[blondguy]

Hi Olly

I am still a bit hesitant when it comes to social situations and it still bugs me..I try to put extra effort in and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesnt..I have had depression for many years which doesnt help my social skills...Its like trying to run in crutches...

I do understand where you are coming from though Olly

Kind Thoughts

Paul

[wsw29]

I have a little problem that is on my mind right now

On Sunday i will be turning 21 years old. I have this big massive party planned on Saturday with school friends. So excited. But on Friday, i have nothing plan. I have recently started a new job and people are starting to get to know but, haven't got anything plan for my Birthday. I would like to go out after work and celebrate my B'day with these new people.

I don't know if they are planning a surprise, taking me for a beer, or should i just go home. It is also going to be a really big night in City and there will be lots to do.

My question my mind right now is, should i stay in town on Friday Night?

[HA1]

Hello wsw29,

My social anxiety is pretty bad so may be I am not the best person to answer your query ... but I will try.

Why not just play it by ear. I think I understand how much you want to try and engage with your new friends, but I would suggest you just wait and see what happens. If they are all going out on Friday night, and you feel reasonably comfortable, why not just tag along. At some stage it will come out that it is your birthday - even if you have to announce it yourself (in a light hearted way).

I think its great that you feel confident enough to go out with your new friends - you are stronger than you think.

Enjoy the evening with your new friends.

K