relationships and bipolar, obsession

[Oz]

Hi, I was being treated for many years for depression however was diagnosed with bipolar after a suicide attempt. Over the last 2 or so years Ive be obsessive about my relationship with a couple with whom Im friends with. I get upset if I dont get spoken to or not invited to things. Has anyone else had this kind of situation with bipolar? The situation is out of control, I cant seem to control myself, stalking their FB, going out of my way to come into contact with them.

Any advice welcome

[Over_It1]

Hi Oz, 

I'm also Bipolar only recent diagnosis. Like yourself I to can get obsessive about family and friends along with jealously and through alot of research and help from my 3 medico's have come to realize that for me its Bipolar with psychotic features/ paranoid psychos. Just something you might wish to discuss with your Dr's since there is help available to alleviate these symptoms. 

Good Luck 

[BecomingAThriver]

Interesting..... Bipolar and Borderline Personality Disorder have some very similar symptoms and often get misdiagnosed for each other. It sounds a bit like you feel like you are being 'abandoned' by your friends to me, if you have BPD, then that would be one of the worst triggers you could have.

The good news is that you can get help for either disorder, the bad news is that you need help to get through both. This is just my opinion but feel free to discuss it with a psychologist / psychiatrist.

[CraftyDivaz]

Hi Everyone,

I'm so glad that I stumbled on your post Oz! I jave had trouble with very similar issues in my life, I did wonder if it's directly related to the bipolar or other possible emotional or mental health issues but never really went into it so deeply for quite some time and never got a definate answer on it being a type of "symptom".

It can be so hard to live with feeling as though loved ones are leaving you out of activites etc. It can be so hard to remember sometimes that even thouugh we can be aware some of our negatives emotions are only due to sumptoms etc, as a human being with emotions you can't help but wonder if sometimes you are right.

It's a question of figuring out which percentage of times we perceive such events can actually be true versus our being fixating, obsessing or paranoia etc. Also, even if we decide that it truly feels like we are being left out, how often is it happening, and how we choose to act and think. We can either run with our negatives feelings and thoughts, or choose to let it go and distract ourselves from time to time. (As long as we are not truly being treated badly by the people we are thinking about)...

If you truly believe they are your rel friends, they want to spend time with you etc, then I agree with all other comments about it being best to work through your negative perception of events. 

Trying not to waffle on and repeat too much, hope it makes sense.

CraftyDivaz

[saviourseth]

I think you just helped me understand myself a lot better highway to hell. Thank you.

I think i must be bipolar and have been since i was very young. I keep getting diagnosed with depression but that just seems to be the tip of the iceberg.

Going to do some more reserach on it.

Thanks again

Saviourseth

[white knight]

Hi Highway to hell

Great post re: "We Bipolars are terminally bored and perpetually dissatisfied. We take everything very personally, tend to act out in all sorts of, er, inappropriate ways and we also have very powerful personalities "

Spot on. And its all very interesting.

I waffle on also. Google an article I wrote about that - "Topic: Do you ramble on- a talker of mental illness all the time?- beyondblue". Interesting that my mother does, in a chronic way. On the phone for hours a day repeating herself.

Now I believe ther eis a link in my bipolar, depression anxiety ills with my mothers chronic BPD (my guess as she is in total denial). Perhaps I should just say she is a narcissist alone not BPD as there is no diagnosis. I covered that in this thread you all might be interested in reading-

"Topic: Children of mothers with Borderline Personality Disorder BPD- Beyondblue)

As for boredom "We take everything very personally" I think there is a link.

google "Topic: boredom, the close door to fun- beyondblue"

Great posts here. Thanks

Tony WK

[Tams20]

Hi everyone,

Old thread, everyone has probably moved on.... but I'll give it a go. I am suffering from this problem at the moment. I'm Bipolar II (recently diagnosed) and I've developed a fixation with a friend of mine. She is a relatively new friend and we have become quite close, I've become obsessed with spending time with her... I seem to place far too much importance on our friendship, prioritising her over all of my other friends (and sometimes even my family). She can make me feel rejected and abandoned so easily, for saying or doing things that would never bother me with anyone else.

We have a lot in common and we get on well. I actually think she also has similar issues with me, to be honest, she has gotten a bit jealous of me spending time with other friends and has been a bit over-sensitive at things I have said and done at times... she is adopted and had a rough childhood and youth, so she is carrying some pretty heavy 'baggage'.

I actually think we are as bad for each other as we are good for each other... I desperately want to stay friends with her, we have common friends so avoiding her would be detrimental to my social life, but am finding it very difficult to manage this.

Any advice would be useful - if I can get the thread started up again!

Tams