Older adult daughter living with me

[MargBrown]

This is my first post and I would like some pointers as to how to deal with an older adult child who has been living with me this time for ~4 years. I would like her to find her own place but I am scared to approach the subject as she is quite a heavy drinker and can get nasty with her responses at times. The situation is exacerbating my own anxiety/depression status and I'd like to resolve the situation before it becomes irretrievable. I had previously lost contact with her for about 5 years due to her drug taking and involvement with undesirable relationships. I do not want to return to that no contact situation. Thanks for your help.

[Saroseme]

Hi,

That sounds like a tricky situation, and I’m sorry.

Now I would recommend, maybe to take it slow, some new things, to kind of start getting her out, but not to the level of straight up putting it that way, does she have a job? Or her own way of support financially? If not, starting with that might be a good idea, obviously if she is a heavy drinker, it may be slightly harder to get some points across, and I get the fear of having to lose contact, for that, maybe if you knows it’s getting bad, just let her be for a bit. She doesn’t sound all that easy, but it would help to get her slightly more independent (as in getting her own place, supporting herself).

Thats all I really can say about that, and sorry if it’s not much.

Let me know if you need any help,

Sam