No longer feel that I fit in at work

[Msk]

I work in a small office there is 5 of us which includes my boss. We have had a new addition to the office staff which is great and she is nice, however I feel now that I don't fit in as I find my colleagues always whispering and usually when I'm at my desk which is away from every one else so I am out if ear shot. We have an office which is used by another organization and running joke now as its known as the revolving door whoever sits in there doesn't stay long in the job. Someone commented that maybe somebody should move in there and see if it works on them "as in leave", another colleague said who do mean, and they replied no I don't want to say. Again I was at my desk out of sight. Maybe I'm being paranoid but I just feel awkward as things have not been the same since the new person came onn board.

[Jacko777]

Hi Msk, welcome to the Beyond Blue forums.

It can't be nice or comfortable to be feeling awkward as you are, maybe a few little steps could change things. Perhaps you fit in just as much as anyone else, perhaps you could presume that you do fit in and everything is okay, unless otherwise notified. It might take some practice, you might have to keep telling yourself over and over until you believe it. Keep breaking the ice, a heart felt comment here and there to your colleagues will make them and you feel better I think.

Do a word search for 'workplace' on the home page too, you will probably find some other tips in the forums. I try not to get caught up in the workplace politics and gossip, it's really none of my business and I have no idea what other people are thinking so I try not to lose energy to it.

Talk any time.

Jack