My wife and step-daughter have OCPD

[Rembrant]

Where to start? I could go on for days. I have known for a long time that my wife and I have serious problems and constant rows all about my inadequacies and laziness. I do not want to separate from my wife, I think I still love her. I am however her 4th husband and all her previous marriages have ended the same way. Last week my wife revealed that her 40 year old daughter was diagnosed with OCPD three years ago. As soon as I read up on the condition I recognised that not only did it fit my step-daughter but it described absolutely and fully my wife's behaviour (I don't need to go into details she meets all the criteria in spades). I have followed the advice and have read up as much as I can. She is highly resistant to all self recognition of her condition. Have to go now she has just returned from the shop. Will continue later.

[Here_I_am]

Hi Rembrant,

I just wanted to check in and see how things have been going since you first posted. You mentioned you would come back and finish your thought, and I'm just following up with you in the hope that things are okay with you.

Hope to hear from you soon.

[Alana_H]

Hi rembrant,

Along with with Here I am I'm just checking in to see how you are travelling. Living with someone with OCPD must be really difficult for you so I suppose I would just recommend getting as much support for yourself as you can right now. There are support groups out there for families of people who have OCPD/mental illness or you could go and see a counsellor for yourself? Another possible option could be couples counselling, sometimes our partners are less likely to listen to us than to a professional, so it can be really helpful to explore your relationship with someone else.

I hope you're well and feel free to jump back on the forums whenever you like.

Alana_H