My mum might have cancer

[Ruby_Duxfield]

I have been feeling very overwhelmed and anxious at the moment finding out my mum could possibly have breast cancer, or even melanoma (the most serious type of skin cancer). I feel isolated and alone and I have no one to talk to. I just want someone to understand, I’d never wish this pain on another soul but I just wish there was someone who could relate ☹️

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

I'm sorry if that's true. However, you say she "might" have cancer so she could not have been properly diagnosed yet. This means you could be worrying without justification and that's not a good thing.

There is a big difference between being concerned and worrying. To be concerned over a possible diagnosis is normal, to worry is not a good thing because it can have medical consequences, like ulcers or strokes.

I do understand because I wrote the following thread on worry as I was a chronic worrier when younger.

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/worry-worry-worry/td-p/87808

Have a read of the first post please.

I hope your mum is ok

TonyWK

[David35]

The cancer council have a hotline you can ring for emotional and even informative support. They are very helpful. I've used them several times when mum was diagnosed with cancer and I found they can help address any fears, uncertainty you might have.

[Mark Z.]

Hi Ruby_Duxfield,

I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this difficult time. It’s understandable that you feel overwhelmed and anxious about your mum’s health. You’re not alone in this situation, and many people feel the same way when they find out a loved one might have cancer.

First of all, it’s important to take care of yourself during this difficult time so that you can take care of your loved one.

It’s also important to get the facts about the cancer diagnosis because feeling uncertain can be a source of anxiety. When you have the facts, your focus will be switched to finding solutions.

There will be a lot of emotions in you, your mother, and other family members during this difficult time. Don’t try to suppress or escape them; accept your emotions and be honest with yourself. Keep listening and talking to your mum, and expect a range of responses and emotions from her as well. Try to be positive, supportive, and realistic.

As David mentioned earlier, ringing the hotline of the Cancer Council is a great idea to get support.

Hope everything will get better.
Mark