My life with anxiety

[Mimz]

Hi everyone, so my name is Miriam and this is how my whole life turned around. 

I used to have the 'perfect' life. Loving family and friends but it's all gone now. My own 'best friend' of nearly 7 years left me and started treating me badly and backstabbing me. I also found out that my dad was kind of cheating on my mum. There's no happy place for me anymore I really need help I'm not feeling like myself anymore 

[Paul]

Hi Miriam,

Welcome to Beyond Blue forums.

It sounds like quite a few things have changed and are snowballing to get you down. Having a best friend stab you in the back is really rough. Sometimes one thing can trigger us to feel out of sorts and the next thing affects us more than it normally would. The can mean any number of things, anxiety, depression, sensitivity, big changes and a difficulty managing them - these are just guesses.

How do you feel about visiting your Dr to have a chat about how you don't feel like yourself anymore?

Another helpful thing can be to tell us all about how you're feeling. It helps to even just write it out. The bonus is we understand.

Let us know your thoughts on visiting your Dr.

Hope to chat soon.

Paul

[Squishy_Tomato]

Hi Miriam,

I am also new to BB. I know a little of how you feel. I suffer with anxiety, have done all my life, and at the moment anxiety is being caused by girls at work backstabbing each other. Because I refuse to join in, it's made me an outcast, now it's affecting my work.

it's tough when you feel as though there is nobody to talk to. You sound quite young for your parents to still affect you in this way, but when a relationship you have relied upon so heavily all your life breaks down that can make you question where you now stand.

i am sure that time will heal, if you can find a way to clear your head or perhaps hook up with a different group of friends, or join something new. This will enable you to make new connections and maybe new friends, and as Paul suggested maybe let your doctor know, they may be able to refer you to a psychologist, who have lots of tricks up their sleeve to help with this kind of thing -no meds required.

 Good luck Mimz.

GL

[Ladyhawke]

Hi Miriam,

​A big, warm welcome to the forums.

Having a long-term friend betray you would be very upsetting and destablising for anyone; it would also give your trust in others a bit of a kick. Similarly, the personal issues with your Dad would be quite a shock to your system and also impact on your sense of trust and feeling of safety and stability. As Paul wrote, one issue after another can have a snowball effect, until our ability to cope is exhausted.

I really understand when you write that you don't feel as though there is a happy place for you anymore. 

I have had major depressive and anxiety disorders since childhood and have been in treatment for both since 1995. I do understand how difficult issues impact upon our sense of safety and security.

I agree with Paul and Squishy Tomato (v. funny name) that you may find it quite helpful, and give you a sense of security, to have a chat with your doctor. Just tell him/her what you've written here and tell him/her how you're not feeling quite yourself. You may feel a great deal of relief and sense of security in sharing your thoughts face to face with a professional. When you book your appointment, you may like to ask the receptionist for a longer appointment; the usual 20 minute consultation may not be enough for you to fully express how you feel.

Also, as Paul wrote, check in here whenever you feel like chatting or unloading your feelings. We've all been through, or are continuing to deal with, difficult life experiences so we really do understand what it's like to feel unsettled and not quite ourselves. We all regularly check into the forums, so you will always find a listening ear.

Please keep in contact and let us know how you're feeling and what happens if/when you see your doctor. We're thinking of you and are genuinely interested in how you are.

Take care and best wishes,

lh