My life is perfect but why am I so unhappy

[Krystalinna]

I have a beautiful fiancé a furfilling job beautiful home good friends yet my days are becoming filled with sleep.

sleep is where I can get away from feeling so empty feeling like nothing has meaning. I just don’t understand why my mind goes to this dark place.

[smallwolf]

Hi Krystalinna,

Welcome to beyond blue.

I am getting two different messages from your post. One is about your days filled with sleep and the other is about feeling empty. The sleepy part could be a medical problem or related to depression/anxiety. My wife has as thyroid condition that makes her very tired, and my son has hypersomnia which is a sleep related condition.

On the second part, I wish I knew the answer to

don’t understand why my mind goes to this dark place

I would like to know the answer to that for myself.I am not sure of what you see as a dark place, as I have my own ideas for myself and others would have their own dark places they dont like. Perhaps you could expand on that a little?

Are you able to talk to your fiancé about this? Or family members? (I would find out that my own father had depression when I first spoke to mum about my own issues - it was clearly not something spoken about in our family.)

You could also look at the K10 on the beyond blue web site. It will give you a recommendation at the end, and is quite short to complete.

That is where I started.

Peace and comforting thoughts,

[Alexlisa]

Hello Krystalinna,

It sounds like you’re having a tough time. I’m glad you reached out here. You will find that people with the most amazingly perfect lives can still struggle with mental illness. Because like physical illnesses, mental illness doesn’t discriminate. Depression and anxiety are very common, among all types of people.

It sounds like it might be worth having a chat with your GP about seeing a psychologist. Lots of people see a psychologist, all walks of life, whether they’re diagnosed with something or not. It will give you the chance to better understand what’s going on for you and feel supported through it.

You can ask your GP for a Mental Health Care Plan which will give you up to 10 free sessions with a psychologist per year.

I know it can feel confusing when you look at your life and can’t see a reason why you feel this way. And it may make a kind of guilt. I think it’s natural for us to look for causes for our pain. But sometimes, like with many physical illnesses, reasons can’t be found. It’s ok to ask for help, we all need it sometimes.

Take care,

Alexlisa

[Krystalinna]

My heart races my palm get sweaty I start to feel this wave of emotion and panic I try to calm my self down I do breathing methods meditation listen to ted talks about motivation and then I will calm down and all it ok but then I just get tired and numb and the dark place is where and when I didn’t want to move from bed I get to the point where my mind can’t stop thinking why are we here what’s the point... hope this helps

[smallwolf]

Hello Krystalinna,

Thank you for the explanation. Have you or are you able to talk to your partner about these thoughts? The symptoms you write about, like the racing heart, sweaty palms are what I used to get.Quite scary. Well, it did on week days, but lessened due to the ADs that I take.

If you are not getting professional help, perhaps you might like to read a book called "The Happiness Trap" that provides different strategies to help manage anxiety or depression.It was recommended to me by my psychologist.

There are other tricks you can do also, or apps you can use to help as well. (I think one is called worry time)

Lastly, do you know what your triggers are for anxiety?

Peace and comforting thoughts,

Tim