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Marriage failing, I get the blame

RichoC
Community Member

So my marriage is in a bad way.

I went on a rant a while back, actually yelling out for help because of my crap situation.

Did not go well. She hates that so much.

So now she sleeps away from me, playing 'oh, we're separated now' games. Breaks my heart after 16-plus years.

I have no job and no income.

I was illegally sacked, so I'm moving to take them to court now. I'm qualified to do it, but it's exhausting.

But I have no income. It's placing a big strain on the house and my marriage.
She keeps complaining that we can't go do that, see people out, we have no money, oh, all the coffee is gone, have to cut back on that, maybe eat less too.
Pretty painful to live like that.
Feel like I should not eat much now or drink coffee.
I get a few dollars from a side business I do, not a lot, but I could buy coffee and a loaf of bread and cheese.
I'm doing everything to try and get close to her, spark what we had again.
I'm being super calm, keeping to myself. Doing things around the house.
It's not working.
She's still playing pretend we're over games. Avoiding me. Wants nothing of me. Does not support me in my battle to get a job that I'm working on every day like mad.

I'm depressed, keep getting pushed away despite my huge amount of experience and qualifications.
Emails saying nah, we don't want you daily.
Killing me. Applied for over 70 jobs, 7 days a week.
Had interviews even and nothing.

No support, just complaints about no money and that's all my fault.
No idea what to do. I get told I'm doing everything I can, but it fails daily.

I'm at the end. I'm worth more dead and she'd be debt-free and happy.
I'm just done with the pressure on me, the hate, no support.
Love any tips that I may have missed very much.
Thanks,

 

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leary121
Community Member

I have lived below the poverty line for 6 years. there are ways to make money that are not a full time job. I have done market research group discussions etc since 1996. I can relate to your comments about your spouse having gone through a divorce myself with young kids I raised almost entirely on my own. life does get better. just because at the moment it seems hopeless, she may come around and you'll work things out and if not, people can and do change after 16 years together. it will be ok.