l blew up in the supermarket.

[Guest_1584]

Hi people.

l had a bad thing today and went off at someone in the supermaket,

Thing is , there's this revolting sicko looking man in this town and l have no idea what it's about but first up, anytime l've seen him he stares right at me, he's even crossed the street to walk past me. And one day l got out of my car to walk into the hardware, he was walking up the street toward me, staring again , right at me. l'm in the hardware checking some stuff next minte his standing shoulder to shoulder right beside me.in a lane 70mtrs long. l thought hmm. creepy bastard so l left that lane went 4 or 5 lanes over to check something else. Guess what, he pops up again , same again here he is standing shoulder to shoulder almost touching, in another lane 70mtrs long without another soul in it.

l thought right you weird so n so l'm outa here and left. Saw him few weeks later getting out of my car he crosses the road staring and walks straight past my and the car door. losing my patience now. let it go said nothing.

Today l'm getting out of my car heading into the supermarket, actually saw him again other side of the road going the other direction. 4minutes later l'm in the inside grabbing veggies, go to turn and walk off again here he was, 2 inches away from me. lt thoroughly creeped me out and l lost my temper, got physical with him and swore at him to stay away from me and called him a few not very supermarket friendly names then stormed off.

Needless to say he'd come out of that smelling like roses and l';; look like a madman that just bumped into someone and went off. l mean don't get me wrong l have no sympathy for the creepy bugger he had it coming anyway and l get anxiety in public awkward situations, but still, now they'll all think l'm mad.

l dunno , if you could've seen all these situations though. he's one sick looking creeper, who could blame me don't you think? l know l should've kept cool l suppose and just threatened the cops onto him or something, calmly. butttt,

Rx.

[paddyanne]

Hi randomx. Greetings and welcome to BB. It almost seems you've had a bad experience with someone following you and this chap who happened either accidentally or deliberately to be where you were caused the trigger from the previous scary experience. Are you sure he was actually staring at you and not just staring vacantly. I had a similar experience many years ago. The chap who scared me was a returned serviceman who had a bad case of PTSD. PTSD wasn't heard of back then, but this poor chap had no idea where he was and every so often he would stop walking and gesticulate madly for several moments before casually continue strolling. I'm not making light of your concerns please don't think that. He sounds as though he has issues where he reacts to something he remembers or sees in his mind. Do you actually know him, is he a familiar sight? Maybe next time you're in the supermarket ask a staff member if they're aware of him. He may be perfectly innocent and quite unaware he has scared you. I'd rather make some inquiries about him, see what you can find out. I'd also say he's quite harmless otherwise he'd possibly be with a carer or not out alone. I understand you're scared, but you need to find out before you report an innocent man for just being where you are.

[Guest_1584]

hi paddy and thanks very much.

yeah actually , l have had a situation like this before. but nah it's nothing to do with triggers l wish that was it. l mean if you think about those 3 instances in shops alone , no way , he did that himself and very much on purpose as it would literally be impossible to have happened the way they did all 3 times. 5,000 people in my town and l've rarely seen the same person twice let alone them following me into shops , 3 times no less, and standing 1 inch away from me.

Don't think there's anything wrong with him in the waus your thinking sorry tbh though, apart from being a sicko of some sort,, But yeah , just encase , that's a good idea , there was a shop guy near at the time , he'll think l'm mad now to but if l see him again l'll explain andl ask if he knows anything.

Thanks for that , appreciated,

rx

[MissBenthos]

Hey randomx,

I know this is easier said than done but if you can: try not to think about what other people are thinking of you. This creepy guy needs to know you have boundaries and there are consequences for crossing them. If you come across him doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s more than ok for you to say “please don’t do <>” (even better if you say it loud and clear for all by passers to hear). If the behaviour continues that’s when you contact staff or police. You don’t need to feel guilty about escalating the situation when the other person knows it’s not ok.

I personally have learnt a great deal about handling these types of situations with confidence through martial arts and self defence training. Might be worth looking into for yourself if you’re interested.

[Guest_1584]

Hi missb and thanks very much for the thoughts , really appreciated.And ya know what , that's pretty well what my gf said too only not quite so politely , as in , l hope you ahh , well l won't mention the rest but, but yeah l felt like it actually.

But yeah exactly what l think too yaknow , if someone thinks they're gonna follow someone and create situations like stand an inch away from you on 3 separate occasions in different very large shopping complexes where there is zero other explanation and probability, and l'm just gonna let it go on , well, nope , there's something going on and that ain't gonna happen. To me doin something like this stuff is that wrong on so many levels.

Thanks for your thoughts on the public side of it too , also really appreciated . l was angry with myself for not keeping my cool , say something yeah , butttt, yaknow. Anyway , so that was really a relief to hear , gf said much the same .

That's a really admirable thing with your martial arts , really , yaknow . So much crap in the world these days ,

All the best . rx