Intense loneliness and anxiety

[Rusty]

I like to think I’m doing all the right things but I just can’t seem to shake this intense feeling of loneliness and anxiety. All I desire is someone to talk to, and to enjoy the little things in life 

[Psychdiaries2]

Hi there Rusty,

Welcome back to the forums, it's lovely to have you here 😊

I hear you, you are struggling with loneliness and anxiety and that is really difficult to go through. You don't have to bear it alone, know you have done the right thing by sharing with us on here. If you feel comfortable, would you like to provide us with a little more info to see what exactly it is you're going through/what you might think the cause of this is? Take the time you need.

We're here to talk and support you through this. Reply anytime

[Rusty]

Hi Psychdiaries2

Thanks for the reply. I having been doing quite a bit to get out and connect like going for coffee in the mornings, I’ve joined a Tai Chi group, volunteering with the local arts centre and even try to visit neighbours occasionally. 
I know it’s only early days but I do feel like I am missing the connection with people especially at times when I’m home alone when I really feel like it would be nice to have someone around.

[Rusty]

To add to the story, the times that are intensely lonely, I feel so lost and feel like people I do know are too busy for me. I try to distract myself from the negative thoughts but sometimes it takes awhile for me to find something that work. 
When I start thinking negative thoughts it’s usually about when I do meet people or in social settings then people are really not interested in talking or connecting with me.

[Rusty]

Well I managed to see my doctor today, looking at changing the medication I’m on. Looked at maybe some other things I can do also. 
I just feel so tense and anxious that nothing seems to work. When it’s at its worst I tend to think about things or situations no going the way I planned. At times I just think the world is against me and no one has the time for me.

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Rusty,

You are doing so much to connect with others, well done…Volunteering is a way I used to connect with others but due to physical and other reasons I left at Christmas…I miss the people and interacting with them a lot. The past couple of months I have experienced intense loneliness again…Its a horrible emotion that does make us feel abandoned by the world…

Well done seeing your Dr today, I hope the new meds work better for you..

Do you live alone? …I live with my 2 fur companions (dogs) sometimes I find myself talking to them like they were humans…😁..

When I am ready for sleep, I listen to YouTube sleep stories, having someone read to me….in a way calms down my anxiety, mostly I fall asleep before the story ends…Do you think you might try listening to a sleep story?  “Get Sleepy” is the station I listen to..no adds and a gentle voice…

Take care of you Dear Rusty…🤗🦩🦜.

Grandy..

[Rusty]

Hi Ggrand

Nice to hear from you. I’m certainly am feeling somewhat better today, mainly a good nights sleep but it’s good to hear some nice advice.

I hope you have some are able to get out and interact with people again, I certainly know that lonely feeling.

Take care

[Happylife]

Hi Rusty,

Happy to know that you are feeling better and had a good night's sleep. It's really good to know you are doing Tai Chi and volunteering, that's a great way to connect with people.

When you are home alone and feel lonely, would you like to try and learn a new language or a new skill to keep your mind occupied? There's a lot of free online courses you can try if you are interested.

If you still feel lonely maybe speak to your doctor, they might help you uncover any underlying causes of loneliness and give you some strategies for coping with loneliness in a healthy way.

Here to support if you want to chat more...

Take care

Happylife

[Rusty]

Hi Happylife

Thanks for the advice. I am seeing the doctor again this week and may discuss the underlying causes. I am the point where I know I’m doing well but finding it difficult to believe there is an end to the pain of loneliness, part of me thinks it will never end.

[Rusty]

Well I thought I’d just check. I’m managing to get by day to day. It’s still a difficult struggle feeling so lonely, but I still have hope that I can eventually make some strong connections. Just thought I’d share where I’m at.