Heya Brett,
I feel relationships are challenging to maintain, especially when you're both working out the required adjustments, and the boundaries that each of you have. It's a lot of mess and trial and error, thus why I admire couples and their tenacity in navigating thru the mess together. Sometimes things just don't work out, and we have to know when to call it quits rather than clinging on. But regardless of who initiated the break up, it is important to recognize that you've done your best in making your relationship work. You've given it all you've got in making yourself and your partner happy in the relationship. Even though things have ended unexpectedly, there's much to gain out of the experience so that you can be better in your next relationship.
Separating from someone whom you once had a relationship with is a tough thing to get thru, and yeah, we won't know what we've got until it's gone. But on a different point of view, it teaches us that nothing lasts forever, and to live the moment and appreciate the things that we have right now :).
Do continue focusing on yourself for the time being as you continue to heal thru your heart break; Mourn the end of your relationship with the person whom you once shared with, and appreciate the good times you had with her. Surround yourself with your friends, or even just chatting with passersby or your local barista is beneficial to your recovery path. Whenever you feel sad about it, it is okay to let that feeling sink into you. Take some time to feel the sadness and recognize/accept it.
Hope that helps Brett! Happy to chat with you more!
JT
JT
