I have a happy life but am constantly anxious and worried

[Leisa1]

Hi my name is Leisa,I have been living with anxiety for 17 years. Myfirst panic attack was after our 10 week old daughter Holly died. I have been struggling ever since. I have been married for nearly 22 years and have a 21 year old daughter. I have a happy life but I am constantly anxious and worried. I am struggling at the moment and feel that I am really upsetting my husband and daughter. I am so tired of feeling this way. I went to my local doctor last week and she said to me if I didn't change I would loose my husband.

[Sparkles183]

Hi Leisa 

welcome to beyond blue I am so sorry to hear about your loss, and the fact that you lived with this grief for so long.

i am just wondering have you got grief counselling about what happened to your daughter? as it seems like you have been living with this pain for so long I just want to reassure you that you don't have to do it alone help is available beyond blue has a great 24/7 help line that will be give you great advise and referrals and I don't know if you know but if you talk to your GP you are entitled up to 10 psychologist sessions each year from medicare and there are also many other options available to get the help you need. I hope more people respond to this post with their kind words , advise and encouragement and you be able to get the help you need 

take care 

sparkles 

[joeljoel]

Hi Leisa, 

Firstly, I'm sorry to hear about the tough times that you have gone through/are going through. That is a ridiculous thing for a GP to say and I'm presuming that didn't help your situation either. If you feel as though you are upsetting your family perhaps open up to them or even attend group therapy, that might be somewhat beneficial and could allow for an open dialogue between you. There is hope out there, things will get better.

Best of luck, Joel 

[Kennaugh8]

Hi Leisa,

I am sorry to read about the loss of your daughter. It is completely understandable that you are still grieving from this, particularly if you didn't come to terms with it completely at the time of the event. As Joel and Sparkles both mentioned, going to see your GP to get a referral for a psychologist is a great place to start as it will give you an outlet to express your feelings and grief. They will also be able to equip you with some strategies to cope with the anxiety and worry that you are experiencing. I understand that you may feel like you are upsetting your family but I am sure that they want nothing more than for you to be happy and well. 

What your local GP said to you was very unprofessional and quite simply, wrong. If there is another one in the area that you are comfortable seeing, I would suggest seeing them. The best way to work through this is with the support of those around you so don't feel like you have to do this alone or can't talk to anyone.

Beyondblue help line is also available should you wish to speak to someone over the phone.

I hope you can begin your healing soon.

Chris