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How can I let my mum move out of my house?
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Because I have been tormented by my narcissistic mother for a long time, I have developed severe depression and anxiety. My psychologist has advised me to stay away from my mother. She has no income or job and has been living in our house. She has been controlling our lives, even demanding that we take her with us when my husband and I go on vacation with our children. She often threatens me, saying, "If you don't make me happy, none of you will be happy!" My husband and I can't take it anymore and want her to move out of our house, but she demands that we pay her rent because she raised me, and I owe her this in return! However, my husband and I have a mortgage to pay and two children to support, so we simply can't afford to pay her rent. I feel so helpless and have thought about suicide many times. Is there any way I can make my mother move out of my house? Are there any organizations that can help me?
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Hi Bebrave2023
Welcome to the Beyond Blue forum family...You are strong by posting
I understand your situation bebrave...Just so we can provide more effective support....Can I ask roughly how old your mum is?
There are many gentle people on the forums that can be here for you bebrave...I am only one of them
my kindest
Paul
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She is 63yro.
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Hello bebrave. Welcome to the forums. With all respect to you and your mum it seems like your mum is fearful of life and she is using you as something to cling to. Your mum really has no right to demand things like pay her rent and take her on a holiday that you want just for you and husband and kids. It's just not fair at all. You love her and want to make her comfortable but not at the expense of your family life. If she has no income she will have to go on benefits. I don't have any real solutions but I know you must not bow down to her being a bully. I really th think she is a bit scared of life alone so she needs to try and find interests with other seniors, get some money coming in from Centrelink and allow her daughter to have her home back. All the best, please come back and talk to us on the forum. We are listening to you!
