Hi

[Rainbaker]

I can’t stop feeling the bad things that may not be real , but just get in the way of the beautiful people and good things in my life of which i have many . I feel a lot of burden from the expectations of people that I can’t find an answer . I don’t even know if am making any sense

sorry

[startingnew]

no worries Kas, whenever your ready

[startingnew]

that is sounding abit tough Rainbaker

could you give me a few examples on the situations? im not familiar with running my own business but would still like to help you through this tough time

[Rainbaker]

The hardest thing sometimes is answering my own questions and knowing that I don’t put in as much effort as i use to . I know that staff will always have times when thye let you down and i know customers are going to have unrealistic expectations . I am so scared of failure that i feel it paralising me

[Chloe_M]

Ah, the fear of failure. It terrorises me daily. Which is why I overwork myself; I have to meet everyone's expectations as well as my own, which according to my family, friends, and teachers are way too high.

is there anything else you wanted to tell us? What do you mean by paralysing? What does this 'paralysing' effect have on your body and mind?

Sorry about all the questions, please do not feel pressured to answer them, you don't even have to answer them at all, I just think they would help me and startingnew (hi startingnew 🤗) understand you and your situation better. Then we can try and help you more from there.

sending kind thoughts to you rainbaker (and kas and startingnew)

chloe xx

[Rainbaker]

Thanks the question help me to understand my thoughts and to work out what is real .when i say paralising i think i just switch of instead of resolving or communicate when i am frustrated especially with things that just are what they are .

[Chloe_M]

That's great! I think I understand more now too. I do that too. Paralysing is a good 'label' for it. I like it 👍

Hope you get a good nights sleep tonight rainbaker 🙂

chloe x

[Rainbaker]

Every night is a good night hope you had a good night

[Chloe_M]

Thank you Rainbaker!

i hope you had a good day today and have some nice things planned for the next weekend 🙂

Chloe

[startingnew]

HI Rainbaker, your post about your daughter self harming popped up after id posted my last msg. im wondering if she has some supports too. not all kids feel they can approach their parents so having a school counsellor or outside school counsellor might help her- im not sure of her age so im not sure which services might help.

you said you have troubles communicating- what do you find challanging- is it the feelings of being crowded, feeling like you fail, feel you lack the social skills perhaps?

have you heard of though challanging by any chance?

and do you have some supports for yourself? someone to talk to offline when you need to?