Has my life turned to crap?

[Andy21]

Okay guys. I'll give you a lowdown:

- I recently left a job (and taken up a freelance position with the same company) and moved overseas to be with my partner. We recently agreed to end it (mutually) and now I'm alone overseas. I have a bummy not-high paying freelance job that has seen my finances, I've spend more money than I can imagine cause I don't care. I've lost my confidence completely that I barely can conversate with people. On top of that, I found out my ex of several years ago is successful and for some reason it bothers me greatly.

Now, yes I know, I can turn it around. But energy-wise, I'm so spend that I honestly can't be bothered. I have become apathetic to another level. I really struggle to find something that interests me or I care about. I just need to know: Has my my life has gone to the crapper? Like, is it as horrible as I am experiencing it, a mere blimp or have I truly hit rock bottom?

Thoughts & Opinions are required!

[james1]

Hey Andy,

Sorry to hear how things have turned out for you.

Yeah, your life has taken a pretty crap turn. Like, that's just a lot to deal with.

A mere blip or rock bottom? Who's to say? The only thing we do know is that you've been in better circumstances, and it's possible to reach them again.

Like you say, you can turn it around.

Sometimes we need time off to recharge. We can get so caught up in holding on that we get tired when it doesn't work. It's very demoralising.

Take your time. Do things you want to do. Talk to people to help put plans back in place again.

Are you able to access the local medical system like a GP or even a counsellor?

James

[quirkywords]

Hello Andy,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for sharing your story.

You have had some major changes in such a short time, and even if these changes were all positive ones that would be a lot to cope with.

Your job is not what you hoped it would be and the salary is not as high as you are used to. Even though it was a mutual ending of the relationship you had moved overseas to be with her and then you agree to end the relationship. That would be very difficult and emotional.

I would acknowledge that you have been through a lot recently and give yourself time to regroup. Can you explore where you live, go to different places and just relax and do something you enjoy.?

I can understand when you feel down to see your ex doing very well would annoy you.

As James said have you or can you see a counsellor or a GP.?

Do you like where you are living and have you made any friends there?

Quirky