Feeling like i have no friends

[Jade747]

Hi im jade im 17 and still in highschool and struggling really badly with friends.

As of this year i have tried to switch friend groups since i felt my group was toxic and had always left me out - this was perfect timing as half of the group moved schools and it wouldn’t be as awkward if i left. After this i sat with a group of girls for a few months but they never really included me in anything- then i moved to another group who where nice but i felt they didn’t necessarily like me- now me and another girl from that friend group have joined another group of girls at lunch. i really enjoy there company and we get along- but as of recent the group which i thought was going to include me more ( as i told them my situation of *having no Friends*) has hung out multiple times without me, i feel extremely broken and angry, often questioning myself what have i done wrong as i haven’t had a group of friends that i feel actually want to spend time with me! Im also confused as my year group has voted me sweetest person two years in a row, so what have i done to people to make them not want to hang out with me ??Im wondering if its becuase im still friends with my original group but not as close as i was before and my new group thinks im still consistently talking and hanging out with them. 

please give me advice as im really struggling and regularly crying about my situation - i feel extremely lonely as i see all the other people i know having fun as a teenager 

As i reflect on my whole time in school i realise i’ve never really had a best friend or a good friend group

all i want is to be called someones best friend and be in a friend group that loves me and makes me feel happy as i only have one more year left if Highschool before we most likely go our separate ways.

thank you for taking the time to read my message, i really appreciate it 💕💕

p.s. if you are in the same boat, you know where to find a friend 🙂

[Scared]

Hello.  
This advice is for all your whole life.

If you want to have a best friend then you have to be a best friend to someone first.  If you want friends then be friends first.  If your feeling alone then maybe there is someone else at school feeling alone too.  But if you both dont reach out then how will you ever know that a best friend is just there at school waiting to be invited for friendship.  So whenever we need something in life be that person first to attract what we are giving out first , then the things we want have a greater chance of coming to fruition.   If you want to be loved then love that person first.  It doesnt always work that smoothly but this way it gives you some control and power over the things you want and need.   Im sure there are others at school wishing for friends just waiting for you to talk to them.   You can say to someone new that you like her hair or say you think that is so cool the way she does this or that

[blueg]

I really relate, basically everything you said is how I am feeling and has happened to me except I haven't been as brave to move to other groups as much as you have. I finish school in less than two months and exam season really doesn't help with the stress of figuring these feelings out (it really just makes it worse and results in a combination of crying in a ball and feeling guilt over not studying). I've heard of other people in similar situations who now have great relationships and great lives so as difficult to believe as it is, I reckon we've got a good shot if we keep hoping it'll happen soon and keep trying our best.

You've got it bestie ❤️

[Scared]

Use the time you have left at school practising saying hello or complimenting others in your school.   You can take these skills into uni or the workplace for the rest of your life.  Its not important that school is nearly finished because you have the rest of your life to practise these skills with tons of people you are going to meet.  Avoid toxic people in life whenever you can .  Most grown ups avoid toxic people and some get sick because they didnt avoid toxic people. Now is the time to concentrate on exams and in between get some practise saying hello to different people you havnt talked to yet.   At school I was in the cool group but i never really felt i belonged.   I wish i hung out with different people because later in life the cool group just ended up being anything but cool. Most died in their twenties and the rest were on drugs they had to battle their whole life.  I got away from the group when i left school and met people who were good to me.  You will meet so many new people when school finishes and people love nice people.  

[Jade747]

Thank you so much for your reply i really appreciate your advice 💓

[Jade747]

thank you so much for replying, im so happy to hear someone is in the same boat. I am manifesting good friends for us 💕💕💕🥰

[Jade747]

That is really good advice thank you so so much 💖💖

[MoodyGuy87]

Hi Jade.

I have read your story. I am sorry to hear about what you're going through. I was in the same position as you when I was in high school. I am now 37 and I have Asperger's which makes it difficult to make friends. You seem like a nice and caring person. My advice to you would be to just be yourself, keep showing kindness and hopefully someone out there will see that in you and would want to be your friend (whether that person is a girl or boy) and maybe you might have something in common with them. I hope that helps..... 🙂

[Jade747]

Hey there! 

thank you so much for taking the time to listen and reply i really reallyy!!! Appreciate your kind words! Im happy to report it has gotten better! I wish you the best in life 💓