Facing fear again

[Guest_1055]

I am sitting on my chair in my bedroom. Hiding from my kitchen, I know that sounds stupid. But I have just returned from there, I desperately need to prepare dinner for other people, but I am having trouble going back in there. Because when I went in there last time, and went to grab the saucepan,  all I heard was mouse mouse mouse he is going to get you, get you, get you, immediately I felt fear and I could feel my heart beating in my head. I can't grab the saucepan now. I am thinking about this logically now, knowing that they can't hurt you and they are more frightened of people, then you are of it. But I am still here hesitating to leave my safe little chair in the corner. I have experienced panic attacks before and have had victory over them. But this one is a new one, a little different. Anyone have any thoughts? I have to make dinner. 

Thanks

[Chicken_Wings]

Shelley think about the mouse.
What is the worst possible thing that could happen. A mouse could run out and he could scare you and you might drop the saucepan? Then what?
Think honestly about what you are afraid of. What exactly is it?

[Bluey_moon]

Hi Shelly Anne, I can relate to your fear, mice were on my long list of worries. 

Notice the were though! Like chicken wings ,(who gives great advice btw), said is it really the mouse you are scared of, what exactly are you frightened of? 

I know you can do it. When we have panic attacks it takes a lot to overcome them! 

Try some breathing excerises and mindfulness exercises. 

Do you have someone who could help you prepare dinner so you aren't doing it on your own? 

[Guest_1055]

Thanks chicken wings, I know it was not very logical thinking. I prayed and thought about it. I have managed to prepare the dinner. I now feel real foolish for posting such a post. I am so embarrassed. I have always had a huge fear of them.And that fear is extremely and utterly ridiculous.

Thanks chicken wings, for running to my aid.

Shelley anne

xxx

[white knight]

Hi Shelley Anne,

 Yeh, Chicken wings is a trooper eh.

I'd buy a cat. But if you prefer dogs get a pure bred Mini Fox Terrier. Ours is 3yo and she sniffs out mice all the time and we get her to take them outside lol.

Sometimes logic doesn't compute in our minds and we allow our minds to run without logic. We cant control all of our minds at times hence the anxiety and our imagination.

I was taught in 1987 to think realistically, to stop imagine things that weren't true.

Tony WK

[Guest_1055]

Thanks for your input White Knight, I love the idea of getting a kitty cat.

Shelley anne

[Mummybee]

Hi

do you think perhaps your fear is actually of people relying on you?

i only ask because you said you had to cook dinner for other people, and I know when I think hard about my actual fears it's leaving behind those people who rely so heavily on me.

just a thought because it struck a cord with me

mummybee 

[Guest_1055]

Hi mummybee

I don't know mummybee, it could be......

I think I am understanding  though what you are saying, are you saying like there is people that are relying on you, and you are frightened or anxious that you are going to let them down, of almost failing them?  Is that right??? I don't know. If yes, I think I have experienced this in some circumstances.

But in this instance, I did feel under time pressure to actually cook dinner, because it was 10pm.....Yeah! I know it is very late.

But I think what motivated, or drove me to actually even go into the kitchen was out of love not fear. Sorry, I think that is right. But your question is a very good one, and I will ponder it more, to see if perhaps it does apply to me.

And truly I do have a fear of mice, I even had trouble just typing that word. I know it is not logical.

Thank you so much mummyee!

Shelley anne xxx

[Guest_1055]

Hi bluey moon!

No there really isn't anyone that actually likes preparing dinner at my place. I like cooking. I just don't like the" you know what???"

I have always been afraid of them. But I will think about what you said, I am quite open to other people's perception of things.

Yes, I should remember to calm myself down and take some deep breaths. So thanks for reminding me of that . I didn't do that last night.

Thanks bluey moon

With hugs

Shelley anne

[Bluey_moon]

How are you feeling today? Hope you are having a good day. 

You said you love cooking. What is your favorite thing to cook? i cook but to me it's kinda a chore. But my favorite thing to eat is salmon, or lamb shanks or lasagne.....