Dear Guest,
I'm wondering if you may be able to get some support from a therapist with regard to the sensitivity with being touched and intimacy? I have had struggles with intimacy which are linked to early life trauma so I can relate. I know it's not an easy thing to talk about. Do you have a sense of where these feelings about being touched are coming from? You don't have to outline the details here, but I'm just wondering if you could work through the issues with a good therapist, ideally one who is trauma-informed if there is some trauma there.
There's also the option of going with your partner to therapy. It may help him understand a lot better what you are going through. I have done somatic work in therapy that works through the body to gently heal patterns that got stuck a long time ago. I'm still a work in progress in certain ways, but things have gotten easier for me from doing this work. Sometimes there is unresolved stuff in the body from the past, but with the right gentle support the body can start to know safety again.
Take good care,
Eagle Ray
