Do you ever feel like a failure?

[poppy29]

I was always told by my parents to try my best and that is all one can ask for. Lately i have been feeling in relation to work, that my best just isn't good enough, and I'm failing. I know in a logical sense that I'm not a failure, and for all tense and  purposes from the outisde it looks like im a sucess but it doesn't stop the feelings of unworthiness.

I worry so much sometimes, that it feels like im in a tailspin and cant stop. I start to think all kinds of fanciful things such as all these different worries, and all these people ive effected. I just go on a tangent.

 I find it so hard to shake these feelings. I just feel so anxious sometimes in relation to work and i feel panicked. Sometimes i can deal with it, and sometimes i cant. 

I just wondered if others feel the same? 

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[Neil_1]

Hi there Poppy

Hey, well done on coming here and providing your post – and also welcome to Beyond Blue.

These things you’ve mentioned are very real and very much encountered by so many of us.  It’s this mongrel illness that overtakes our minds and instills all these negative thoughts in them – you’re not good enough, you’re hopeless, why are you bothering, and so on.  And thus the struggle begins with us trying to not believe this – and yet it’s so damned hard.

Can I just say to you – you are working – you have a job – and you’re absolutely correct, you are not a failure.  Holding down a job is a big thing and all that goes hand in hand with that as well.  I know it’s difficult, but try to focus on the good things that you do at work – your successes, no matter how small.  Hells bells, even getting up and going to work, I think, especially for me is a win situation.

Have you had any counselling or appointments with psyches – or even going to see your GP?   Something like this I believe could be very beneficial to you – and perhaps, if you’re not already on any, perhaps they may prescribe some medication to help out also.

Poppy, thanx for posting and I do hope you can respond back as well.

Kind regards

Neil

[Liam007]

Poppy,

In regards to you asking if anyone feels the same. Yes I do. So I certainly empathize with how you feel. Though in my case I feel like a failure at school.

The best thing you can do is not quit- people need to learn to give you a chance. You have every right to be the best that you can and you have the right to be on this planet and do as well as everyone else.

Hope that helps a bit.

Always up for a chat. Liam