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Do I Have Purpose?
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One of the things I find that I get anxious about is feeling like I have a purpose, like there is a point to my existence.
I see other people living their lives and I feel like they are achieving things and have goals. I then think about my own life and wonder what I'm missing. I feel like I'm getting older and like I've missed a vital step in life. Like there is something I am meant to be doing and I'm not doing it.
Days often feel like I'm just waiting for another day to be over. I don't feel like I'm doing much, I just go to work, come home, watch tv, repeat. And then on weekends try and find something to do to fill the days.
I've been looking up meetup groups and clubs or groups I could try and join, but it all feels kind of weird and pretend.
Has anyone else struggled with feeling like they have no path or no purpose? How did you combat it?
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Thanks Mummybee,
I think the visit threw me a bit. I wasn't expecting to cry cause I've been feeling ok, but he got me, I cried.
Hope you're doing well too.
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Hi Chicken Wings,
I can definitely relate and have asked myself the same question recently. With anxiety, it regularly feels like I'm just surviving more than living. I think for me, it is my relationships and connecting with other people which is currently giving me most purpose. You mentioned considering joining meet up groups. I have made really good friends from joining several meet up groups. I'll admit that it was a bit difficult for me in the beginning, however you often find that there are other people in the same boat as you and it gets easier. It's a lot easier if you find a group which is doing something you enjoy or are passionate about. It's one of the things that I am most proud of myself for doing because these friendships are things that get me through my struggling periods.
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I'm a bit scared of the groups thing, I'm not great meeting new people. But your note gives me a bit of comfort. I'd not really considered the fact that other people joining might be in the same boat as me.
I've been looking through pages and pages of groups and I'm determined to find one I think I will enjoy.
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I recently had an appointment with my psychologist and one of her tasks for me was to write 10 things down that are worth living for. This is something I suggest for you to do. The next time I saw her I read it out to her and told her It wasn't very difficult for me to come up with the list. We can get so caught up in repeating the same thing everyday and not think about the bigger picture as to what life has to offer. Chickenwings.. you mentioned social media isn't a realistic reflection of life. My psychologist totally agrees with you. Social media creates an illusion that life is all fun and games, whether that be going on holidays, going to parties, graduating, getting married...whatever it may be. I have had my most difficult year dealing with anxiety/depression in
over 10 years. I told my psychologist I find it difficult to get excited about anything anymore. She asked me the last time I remember getting excited..I had to really think about it and it was xmas last year where I
felt adrenaline running through me when opening one of my presents. These situations only occur rarely. Life can be difficult at times. People have to shop, cook, clean, wash, pay bills, repay loans, drive in heavy traffic, look after family members that are sick, deal with stressful situations....and so on.
Trying new experiences such as yoga is one of the things worth living for. I plan to do it shortly.
Hope this has helped
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Hey Zoostar,
My psychologist asked me to make a similar list. I'm going to see him tomorrow with it.
It was quite hard to write because I really hadn't thought so much about what I really want from life.
There are so many things that are just expected of you, like getting married, having kids etc but I'd never stopped to think if they were the things I really wanted from life.
I've bought some yoga mats, have to wait till christmas to bring them out though.
I'll see how I go tomorrow. Hopefully I will feel as good as I do this morning.
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Try not to feel pressured to have to get married and have kids. Not everyone has to get married and have a family to be able to live a happy and fulfilling life. I work in health and care for people that come from different cultural backgrounds and I get asked about my personal life alot. I'm in my early 30s and someone recently asked me why I'm not married? My response was "I haven't got to that stage of my life yet". One of my colleagues considers being asked about her personal life to be rude and she gets asked why she doesn't have any children and her response is "I hate kids".
What short term and long term goals do you have? What are your plans for the next 12 months? What do you enjoy or get satisfaction in doing? What do you see others doing that you would like to try, or what have you always like to do but never had the chance? These are the things I thought about.
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I work with a woman who thinks its really rude too.
I guess I'm just starting to feel it cause everyone around me suddenly has babies and is married.
There are definitely things I want, like to own a house so I can actually paint the walls the colour I want or hang a picture if I feel like it. Something to make my own.
My list ended up looking a lot more like a list of feelings I want to have than a list of things! We'll see what the psych says about that.
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You have a list though, that's the main thing!
hope you are working on it
mummybee
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Hey Chicken Wings, just want to say hello. I have written lists also that are mostly feelings and things like " grow closer in the heart to family members."
Hugs
Shelley
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Thanks Shelley,
I've been doing really well the last few days. I'm still scared about some things, but I'm living.
I'm eating more and making plans. I went through my list with my psychologist and I think he was really pleased.
I'm trying really hard to make active steps to being well.
I hope youre having some success too.
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